2016-10-31

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Quote of the day: Journalism is printing what someone else does not want printed: everything else is public relations. – George Orwell

Quoted by Tim Fargo

Speaking of journalism, I remembered at 6 Degree Conference this year, a senior correspondent made some excellent points in the breakout session regarding “Use of Language”. As a senior correspondent, he has covered quite some major news spots throughout the world, in the Middle East, in Africa, in Southeast Asia and some dangerous warzones. He mentioned that one of the duties of a journalist is to be brave and tell the truth, esp. when you know for sure that the person is telling lies or trying to hide some truth. It is not personal attack, but to help the general public know the real story.

However, it is getting harder and harder for the journalists or the newspapers to tell the truth, as journalism and politics are connected more and more tightly. Journalism or newspapers are never as freely as the freedom of speech implied. Therefore, journalists who walk the extra mile to get first-hand information, who speak what is right rather than what is happy, are the real heroes in the profession.

It is always a question in my head as a journalist, whether one should take a side or comments on any side. What do you think?

When I did my research on George Orwell, I happened to find 6 points that he promoted, which will help journalists become better journalists. They are helpful for our daily writing as well.

  1.  Never use a metaphor, simile or other figure of speech which you are used to seeing in print.
  2. Never use a long word where a short one will do.
  3. If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.
  4. Never use the passive where you can use the active.
  5. Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent.
  6. Break any of these rules sooner than say anything outright barbarous.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consultingn – Move People

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2016-10-28

Give thanks for the sorrow that teaches you pity; for pain that teaches you courage and give exceeding thanks for the mystery which remains a mystery still – the veil that hides you from the infinite, which makes it possible for you to believe in what you cannot see. – Robert Nathan

Quoted by HappyHanh88

Such a short statement is filled with “thanks”. Have you ever thanked any of them?

Robert is teaching us how to appreciate. No one’s life is a smooth ride, so when we are in adversaries, don’t panic, don’t resent, don’t hold grudges, as you are not alone. Being thankful is a strongly positive energy. Human contacts are based on the transfer of energy. The Law of Attraction is also based on energy. When we feel gratitude, we are extending an aura of growth, physically and mentally.

The sorrows that teach us pity teach us to have compassion. We are more capable to empathize others’ pain; therefore, we learn to appreciate.

The pain that teaches us courage teaches us to have confidence. We are more capable to overcome the fear; therefore, we learn to take actions.

The peak of the sorrow and pain is like the peak of exhaustion in a marathon. Have you ever run long distance? The longest I ever ran was 5k in my college. I remember, after about 5 circles around the track, my throat felt burning and my chest bursting. I wanted to stop badly. However, as I kept my legs moving, inch by inch, I ran forward. The longer I kept, the easier I felt. I realized that the previous burning and bursting were the peak. Once I passed that period, my body got used to the pace, muscles and breathing were coordinating more smoothly. I could feel that I was under a kind of autopilot mode. It was the exhaustion that brought the more smoother run.

What was your experience of surpassing that peak and move on? Had it not been for the near surrender experience, would you be able to know how much you could stretch? How did it make you feel when you broke your life’s new Olympic record? Your self-understanding, self-esteem and self-confidence reached a new level. You started to live your life from a new height. You had grown.

Be thankful to the adversities that challenge you to breakthrough, as they give you an opportunity to break.

Be thankful to the mystery remains mystery, as it gives you a space to transcend.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-27

Quote: Don’t believe what your eyes are telling you. All they show is limitation. Look with your understanding. – Richard Bach

Quoted by Tim Fargo

This is the first quote that I came across today. It didn’t quite strike me until I did a bit of research of Richard Bach. He is an American writer and also a pilot. He started his flying at the age of 15. Now I am reading this quote from a different perspective.

Even though I can not fly an airplane, while most of us can’t either, we all have the experience of flying in an airplane. Looking outside the window, when it is a fine day, or any day, after the plane climbs through the troposphere and reaches stratosphere, the sky is always blue and the sun is always shining brightly. We can see as far as our eyes can figure out. I am always amazed by the altitude that I am at that time. However, whatever our eyes see is the limitation; while we understand that the stratosphere or the space we are at is so broad and wide that we can never see the end of it. When thinking about this fact, do you feel your chest is opening up or closing down? I am inhaling deeply right now as I think about the scene, and my chest is expanding, feeling a sense of firmness.

As a lover of flying, Richard must have the most profound experience soaring in the sky. He must have a deeper understanding of the limitation versus infinity. The quote represents his philosophy that “our apparent physical limits and mortality are merely appearance”. We believe what we see (“Seeing is believing.”). We do things within our physical capacity on autopilot mode. It is safer to keep within the boundary.  However, when we are put into a physical challenging situation, our body will generate unbelievable restoring capability to help us live our lives the best we are able to. That is why when one of our senses is blocked, the other senses become more activated.

Have you ever felt that you are stuck, that is when you see your life with your eyes. The task is beyond your capacity; the kids are not listening; the partner doesn’t care; you see yourself as a failure. Please try to look with your understanding.

  • What can you do to complete the task, extra guidance, more time or delegating to others?
  • When the kids used to listen, how did you do that?
  • What kind of care from your partner are you looking for? Does he or she know? Is it possible to communicate your needs?
  • Failing to do certain things doesn’t mean failing forever. What can you do to make it work?

Look with our understanding, I think, means changing our narratives. If we want happiness in our lives, think happy thoughts. There are always two sides. Which side do you pick

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-26

Quote: Never be afraid to ask for what you want in life.

Quoted by @Goal_Cast

When I read Million Dollar Consulting by Alan Weiss, a quote stuck with me firmly, “If you do not blow your own horn, there is no music.” It totally makes sense, literally and with its figurative meaning.

In business, if we do not ask, there will be no business. Unless we attach a sign on your forehead “Looking for business”, no one will know what you are in there for. After we take the initiative and the courage to start the first cold calling, we should celebrate it that we were on the phone for more than 1 minute. So what’s next? Wait? That is failure to ask. There are various ways to follow up, sending greetings on special occasions, circulating informative newsletters, inviting the prospects to speak at our events, bridging people in various industries for collaboration, and last but not least, expressing our interests in the prospects’ business, offering assistance, support or brainstorming sessions. These follow-ups might not generate instant profits, but they are perfect demonstrations of our consistency, interests, professionalism and competency. In the meantime, what we gain is the practice, the perfection and the confidence. However, if we do not ask, we gain nothing.

In relationship, if we do not ask what we want, the ambiguity will consume the relationship ultimately. Men or women, we must know our own needs first before we ask for them from the other persons. Are we looking for someone more independent, or we prefer someone needs our support? Are we ok with a casual lifestyle, or we prefer every day is organized? Do we care more of communication on the day-to-day living, or we prefer more profound talks between the souls? Do we value a more involving and funny partner in parenting, or we prefer to handle the majority in bringing up our kids? The list can go on and on. We first need to identify the most critical qualities we want from the other person; then we gauge whether this person has these fundamental qualities through our interactions. If luckily they do, then we must make sure that this person understands what we want from them, so that there will be fewer surprises and less disappointment when we get together. This is not the time to show our accommodations and compromises, at least not at the beginning of the relationship. However, if we do not ask at the beginning, we either hold grudges for the relationship leading to its dissolution, or we must expand our accommodation and compromise in the long run to keep its integrity. This is an advice that I am going to tell my girl.

In parenting, if we do not ask what we expect from the kids, we shouldn’t criticize them when they behave in contradiction to our requirements, as there’s no requirement from the get-go. I learned from my kids that kids are born pleasers. In the bottom of their hearts, the kids are attached to the parents and they are willing to make efforts to make us happy. As parents, what we can do to nourish this kind of bonding is to discuss with them about our expectations and consequences if the expectations are not met. In the meantime, we need to get their opinions as how they want the expectations to be met. Once the conversations are finalized, we are ready to go. We should have the authority as parents, in the meantime, be flexible. We must be stern when it is necessary, and understanding in the case of sincere apologies. We must be celebrating when they follow through, and supporting when they need help. However, if we do not set up boundaries in the beginning, we should bear the consequences of no-rule.

There is nothing to lose when we ask. Even if the answer is “No.”, we can assure ourselves that we did ask. Asking is our rights. So use it.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-25

Quote of the day:

I lost my excuses and found my results. – Shawn Flynn

I found my excuses and lost my results.

January, it just passed the new year, there are a lot of goodies out there. It is a pity to ignore them. I will start my diet and workout shortly.

February, it is Valentine’s month. I have a very good reason to have a nice big meal.

March, the days are getting longer, which is very nice. I will get up earlier to catch up my workout. But today is the first day, I need a transition. Maybe getting up 5 minutes earlier tomorrow, so I will have more time to exercise.

April, let me fool those guys that I am back to my old habit, eating, eating, eating. Well, it is also an award for my determination.

May, spring is officially here. Wouldn’t it be nice to try the new sirloin at the newly opened Moxie’s?

June, my co-worker just taught me a new recipe, so juicy so delicious, I will make it this weekend.

July, I just had a good meal celebrating Canada Day, feeling so guilty and the year is half way through, I haven’t gone far on my workout. I will go to the gym tonight.

August, it is the perfect season for sunbath on the beach. Some chips, ice creams, yummy.

September, my legs still hurt from the workout last week. They say we should take a break. So I will follow the idea.

October, pumpkins, turkeys, Thanksgiving. Oh, my favorite holiday. We will have mom’s traditional turkey feast. My mouth is watering even thinking about it.

November, the days are getting colder, so cold sometimes. I always feel cold in my hands and feet. Probably I need more energy to keep warm, like fries, chocolate cookies, burgers. Yes, I need more of those.

December, it is the Christmas season. There are candies, cakes, turkeys, chocolates every where. I just indulge a little. It won’t hurt my plan.

I found the excuse for each and every month. So at the end of the day, I still face the issue of high blood pressure, because nothing will change if I don’t change.

If we would like to find excuses, it won’t be hard to do so. When we find the excuses, we know it is OK to put what we want aside and go sideways. One time wont hurt. However, excuses are addictive. Once we find one and didn’t bear any consequences, we tend to find the next. One excuse is excuse. Two excuses are routine . Three excuses are habit. We know how long it takes to change a habit. When finding excuses becomes a habit, our integrity is in jeopardy.

Picture ourselves at the best we want, what difference will that make us feel? We can proudly say “I did it.” No matter how small the step is. No matter how slow the progress is. Like the saying goes, “The running water never stinks. The turning shaft never rusted.” We will see the results we want.

I lost my excuses and found my results.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-24

Quote of the Day:
Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. – Napoleon Hill

Quoted by John C. Maxwell

This is well said.

I remember from a young age, the most spoken quote about failure and success is “Failure is the mother of success.”, meaning failure teaches success how to be successful, like all the mothers do, by demonstration, by reminder, by fail-and test, with patience and faith.

I remember the basketball icon Michael Jordan said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” The times and times of failure are the proofs of his practice to be perfect and his persistence to be successful. Wouldn’t you say that the frustrations from those failures empowered him to keep on until being the Master?

You probably remember seeing toddlers learning to walk. When they fall, the parents or caretakers always encourage them, saying, “You can do it. Stand up. Try again. Come here.” It is from those falls and get-ups that a toddler learns to walk. Would you say that the falls create the opportunity to stand up and walk, the benefit greater than the hurt of the falls?

Nick Vujicic, a man without arms and legs, who creates the powerful message that “I fall and now I am facing down. I will try one hundred times to get up, and if I fail one hundred times….If I fail and I give up, will I ever get up? NO!….” The adversity of physical challenge builds up his physical strength and enhances his mental endurance. Even after he defeated the fate by graduating to be an accountant, he declined the stability of life and took a bigger challenge to spread his spirit of not-giving-up across the world to help more people rise up from adversity. Wouldn’t you say that the adversity teaches him greater meanings of life than had he been normal?

In my favorite movie, The Sound of Music, it says “When God closes a door, he must opens a window somewhere else.” Stop crying over the spilled milk. Start to see the benefits in each adversity, failure or heartache. This is not positive thinking, but finding the things that we can learn from each incident and move on with more determination. You will see it when you believe it.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-21

Quote: The willingness to fail is the start of something great, not the willingness to succeed. This is the key to unlocking your dream.

Quoted by Chad R. Turner  @flyupnow

We all know that the harder we clench our fists to hold the sand, the faster it runs away. I learned from other people that a collision accident normally resulted from the intention to avoid the collision. Whatever the driver tries to avoid, the steering wheel actually steers towards it. Also the more we try to justify what we have done, the more it becomes unforgivable.

I think it applies to success as well, just like what the quote says.

Listen to this, “Let’s try not to fail.” What is the focus in this statement? “Fail”. When we focus on how not to fail, we will be willing to do anything that is not risky, so as not to fail. We become over cautious. We become filled with fears. When our brain is under such threat, it doesn’t function the way it should. We are no longer creative, passionate, or fearless. On the other hand, we tend to care too much about what others will say about us. Our egos defeat our courage to take actions. So if we want to create something big, something great, forget about being perfect. We can only become better through trial and test. Otherwise, we are missing the reference to gauge our progress.

If we are all willing to succeed, we should be willing to try every measure to see what is going to work. When we let go the fear of failure and abandon the ego of perfection, we are free to try, we are free to fail. It is the freedom that we feel within, esp. the freedom to fail that is the most motivating factor leading to consistent actions. Despite what others say about us, we know we are moving forward, we know we are making progress. We don’t need to fight to win. Action speakers louder than words. Don’t let the fear of failure become the hindrance to greatness.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-20

Quote: Look up to the sky. You will never find rainbows if you are looking down. – Charlie Chaplin

Quoted by Dave Sitzler

I think the quote reveals one common sense which are normally forgotten and one tool to help us get what we want.

The common sense: we should be clear of what we want and look for it in the right place. I will tell you a fable in Chinese. The story took place in the Warring States Period in ancient China. Once a man wanted to go to the south, but his carriage was heading north. A passer-by asked him:”If you are going to the south, why is your chariot heading north?” The man answered, “My horse is good at running. My driver is highly skilled at driving a carriage, and I have enough money.” The man didn’t consider that when the direction is wrong, the better his conditions were, the further he was away from his destination.

If we are looking for advice to success, talk to successful people and see what in that we can adopt. If we want to improve our skills on execution, for example, get advice from people who are good at execution and customize the advice into the actions we can take. If we desire a good relationship, observe the good relationship and see what can be added into our current relationship. The more we mindfully look for what we want, the more we will be able to see it.

The tool to help us get what we want: think with the end in mind. It means be clear of what we want to achieve at the end, then think backwards about what needs to happen that leads to the end achievements. If we want solutions, bring up the solutions and think backwards about what can be done to lead to the solutions. Analyzing the cause of the problems can be helpful to certain degree, but dragging in finding out the causes is like looking for rainbows by looking down. Most of the times, the solutions have nothing to do with the problem itself.

Look up in the sky. You will find the rainbow. It is always there.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-19

It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. – Viktor Frankl

Quoted by Luma Shihabeldin

This is a famous quote from Viktor Frankl in his famous Man’s Search for Meaning.

That book was the first recommendation from a close friend of mine, who has been reading extensively in his twenties and applying what he had read in his life. He is the kind of people who is still happy even when his business went bankruptcy; he is the kind of people who keeps a jar of coins for those who beg in the street. I learned from him the luxurious lifestyle he had when the business was booming, as well as the embarrassing of no income for months. I know he has the very reason to just find a “job” per se, but he is still pursuing his dream of empowering people to a better life.

Thinking about his life reminded me of the above quote. There are the poor, the starving, the injured and the people who escape war on a daily basis. There are the disabled, the wronged and the exploited. Do they expect their lives to be like that? Are these disadvantages something that they would like to have more than you and me? But do they have other choices? It is always at this time that we can realize how blessed we are to have a normal life, which is the luxury that those disadvantaged are longing for.

It is hard to imagine life in a war zone. One of the shocking pictures that I saw at 6 Degree Conference 2016 in Toronto was a rubber boat over the open sea with at least 60 people cramming on it. It is heartbreaking to see people risking their lives in such desperation to escape from their troubled homeland, but it is also eye-opening to see how strong the desire is to find a way-out, even if it is the unknown.

As Victor Frankl further said in his quote, “think of ourselves as those who were questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist, not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct.”

Life is life as it is. When it is beyond our control to arrange what happens in our lives, at least, we have the ability to make decisions, the decision to fulfill our tasks, the decision to take the right actions, the decisions to doing.

The less regrets we have at the end of the day, the more meaning we have given to our lives.

I would like to say to my close friend, hang in there, as long as you don’t quit, you will never fail. I would like to say to you, my unmet friends, when you turn the knowing into doing, you will find that the path is not that hard and the tasks can be conquered one by one.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-10-18

If I quit now, I will be back to where I started, & when I started I was desperately wishing to be where I am now. – Unknown

Quoted by Dave Sitzler

Is this the same mentality as “grass is greener on the other side of the street?”

As I wrote yesterday, there will never be the just-right time. It is a simple excuse of non-acting.

On the other hand, once we start to take actions towards what we want, no matter how slow the process is, it is much better than standing still. It is when we look back that we realize, “Hey, I have gone this far.”

The secret of keeping on is to make it fun. We always have a kid inside us, however old we are. What I have done to make my process funnier?

When I was working on the boring filing, I will talk to the files and let them know that I will take care of them. In return, they become alive and look neater. The result? I created a more efficient filing system at work.

When I exercise, I pick the programs that I really like, such as dancing, Latin, hip hop, raega, belly dance, you name it. It is in the process of enjoying that I stick to my schedule, losing weight, sliming down and toning up.

When I want to emphasize a routine to the kids, I make it a game, such as keeping the routine with the kids as if I am one of them. Punish the breaker and award the keeper. Even though I still need to remind them from time to time, it works much better than simply commanding.

Grass might be greener on the other side of the street; however, you might have more structures on your lawn, or you might have more colors in your yard.

Feed yourself with empowering thoughts that you CAN. The more you can, the more you can. It is the rule of momentum. At that time, quitting is never an option.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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