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W|D|R – Stupid or Smart?

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lightupIn last night’s class, we read the story “Amelia Bedelia and the Surprise Shower” together. It is one of the classic Amelia Bedelia series. As a maid, Amelia Bedelia created some crisis for the surprise wedding shower for Miss Alma. Instead of getting rid of the scales on the fish and putting them in the fridge (scale and ice the fish), she left the fish on the scale to weigh and put icing on the raw fish; instead of ironing the tablecloth (run over the tablecloth with iron), she run over the table cloth with an iron in hand, leaving her footprints on the clean tablecloth; instead of pruning the hedges (prune the hedge), she stick prunes on the hedges; instead of putting the cut flowers in the vase, she cut off the pedals and put them in a vase, just to name a few. However, when all the mess made the guests angry, she stayed calm and never forgot to bring out her signature cupcakes with smiles on her face the whole time. Finally, the kind Miss Alma burst into laughter, either after understanding the true reason or looking at the forever-smiling Amelia Bedelia. Anyway, it was a happy ending, everybody had an unexpected type of wedding shower, with pouring water from the hose.

I don’t k now how many times I had read this story before, during and after preparing this lesson. The first time, my reaction was, seriously? There are people like her, making stupid mistakes due to misunderstanding? After that, as I had been reading and expanding my thinking, the more I read the story, the more I find something we can learn from this girl. That’s exactly what happened in class yesterday.

After reading the story, I ask “How do you like the story? How do you like the girl?” No doubt, the replies were, to list a few, “She is stupid.”, “If she doesn’t understand, why not ask to clarify?”, “Her mistake can cause bigger problem if it is another more serious situations.” I understood where these answers come from. After clarifying that certain situations do require seriousness and accuracy, I then keep asking,

“What if she doesn’t think it is a misunderstanding?”
“Well, she is lack of common sense.”
“Does these cause any real trouble?”
“Yes, the guests were mad and the whole celebration was ruined.”
“Ok. The shower was ruined. Then how was the shower ended?”
“Well, it was a happy ending, everybody laughed, but it was because Miss Alma was kind and considerate.”
“Well, that makes sense. How do we define if an event is successful or not? Who can tell us if it is successful?”
“Of course, it is the guests.”
“And?”
“The guests were happy at the end, so I believe the shower was a success.”
“En, I like your thinking.”
“Is there anything we can learn from this girl?”
“Absolutely not. She is so stupid.”
“How did the girl react when the guest started to get angry?”
They started to mention that she brought out the delicious cupcakes, she kept smiling, she was calm…..
“Great observation. You’ve pointed out the things that she did wrong, but is there something we can learn from her?”

After that question, the participants started to list her calmness, her relax, her humor, her excellent baking skills, and on and on. Then I ask, “Did you think about these right after reading the story?””No.””What happened? How come you start to say good things about this girl?””We look for the good things.”

That is it. We can say she is stupid for making such a mess, or we can also say she is smart for keeping calm and humorous in crises. We can say she doesn’t have common sense for not able to figure out people’s judgments, or we can say she has a follow-the-flow attitude and takes life easy for not affected by other’s mood. It all depends on how we look at it. It all depends on how we look at everything, our lives, other peoples, including ourselves. If you like feeling abundant, happy, good, positive, then you must train your eyes to spot these things. It is like the saying, “It only takes a sparkle of light to light up a dark room.”

Stupid or smart? Criticism or compliment? It is just a split of second, but it will make huge difference along the line.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – The Power of Content.

QingxiaMost of you will recognize the lady in the picture. Yes, she is Brigitte Lin (Lin Qingxia), the previous movie star loved by millions for decades. Recognize her or not, can you believe that she is 60?

What can you see from her? She is beautiful, elegant, graceful and she is smiling.

What I see from her smile is content. Smile from content is so natural, so tranquil and so pure. This is the kind of smile from within, that nothing is bothering her, no argument, no deficiency, no struggle, no deliberation, but only be present, be there, be her.

I didn’t realize the power of content until I keep seeing pictures of smiles.

Audrey-Hepburn

Audrey Hepburn

Isabel Preysler

Isabel Preysler

 

sheryl sandberg

Sheryl Sandberg

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

These smiles are genuine, demonstrating the content they have, either from their career based on their competency, their wealth based on their wisdom or their cause based on their character. These are the smiles that can bring sunshine to any terrible days.

At the beginning, I thought, of course they feel content, because they are celebrities, they have the money to live an admirable life, they are known to the world, they have fame, wealth, status, which are what everybody is struggling for. However, think about it, like it is said that we will never have enough money, never have enough time, never have enough accompany, and these might apply to them, too. If this is what they look for in their lives, do you think the smiles can be this care-free?

When we stop looking for things that may bring us content from outside us, there’s only another place we can look, which is the inside of us, how we look at ourselves, how we take care of ourselves.

Rather than complaining that your partner doesn’t take you for that gourmet dinner like other couples, will you be able to treat yourself once in a while, be like a princess?
Rather than spending the time envying your friend’s achievement, will you be able to spend time improving your competency and become a better person?
Rather than feeling less of a person around certain people, will you be able to step away for a while and if things don’t work well, then get out of the relationship?
Rather than looking for what you don’t have, what you can’t do, will you be able to find the resources that you do have and actually do something to get what you want?
……

The list can go on and on. It is important to know that there’s always something we can do to regain that balance in our lives. It comes from accepting ourselves the way we are. It comes from the wisdom to find the things we like and are good at and do it. It comes from the confidence that we have the full control of our lives and the awareness that we can do something about it. At least, for now, after this reading, you might give your life a little thought and find the first little thing you can do to find the content.

Like Dr. Wayne Dyer said, “You will see it when you believe it.” Believe in the power of content, which can bring the best smile to your lives.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

 

 

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W|D|R – Believe yourself. You are living a meaning.

meaningHappy Friday! In the elevator this morning, my co-worker said, “Yes, we made it!” It is so true. We make it! Do you know why? Because we know we need to do it, either come to work, if you work for someone, or get on the road, if you work for yourself. Basically, it is something that we live for. It is a meaning, big or small.

My intention was to write about the meaning of our lives, something that is bigger than ourselves, something that we live for. But as I am writing the above words, I feel a switch of thinking. Actually, every one of us, no matter we love what we do, or we swear what we do, we are living a meaning. It is something that is so important to us that we are not willing to stop doing it.

When we feel frustrated or losing directions, ask the question, “What do I live for?” It could be money, fame, a person, or anything. Then ask further “What difference does it make if I have it?”, “What else?”, “What else?”…. after 12 what-else questions, we will be able to find the gem, the real meaning of our lives. I have used this hundreds of times when I talk with my clients and it never failed.

I got this from my coaching studies, as well as reading. I have read Charles R. Swindoll’s Saying It Well. He mentioned a book that helped him break through the struggle when he learned that he would be deployed to Japan as Marine Corps shortly after his marriage. Thinking of leaving his new bride behind and going thousands of miles away tortured him day and night. He found the ultimate power after reading this book, which is called Through Gates of Splendor.  The book tells the story of Operation Auca, an attempt by five American missionaries to reach the Huaorani tribe of eastern Ecuador, who were an isolated tribe known for their violence, against both their own people and outsiders who entered their territory. With the intention of being the first Christians to evangelize the previously uncontacted Huaorani, the five American missionaries made regular flights over the Huaorani settlement, dropping gifts to show their sincere intention. That intention was something they live for and became the meaning of their lives, something bigger than themselves.

There is a girl who I used to work with. She was working on a business with a partner. As far as I know, she worked so hard and so diligently on what they did, and she was the most supportive and encouraging person I have ever known. (I wish I had a partner like that.) What she told me convinced me the power of that meaning. She said that she didn’t need the business, because she had other means of income, but she loved this person so much. She saw the potential in him, which could generate into something really big. He was in a relationship, so she couldn’t see any future for herself with him, but she knew the meaning of what she was doing, which was to bring his potential out so that he can fulfill his dreams, to provide abundance for his children, to bring motivation and inspiration to the world, to light up the hearts of the struggles. She said whenever she thought of giving up due to the struggles inside her, she would remind herself of the meaning of her journey, something bigger than herself. The knowing of that meaning is able to heal any pain and make life worth living.

Parents do anything for their children. True lovers make any sacrifice for the loved ones. Missionaries risk their lives for their beliefs. What keeps them going is the meaning they see and pursue.

So every morning when we open our eyes, say to ourselves, “I have a meaning in my life which is what I live for.”

Believe yourself. You are living a meaning.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.

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After a few days of the humidity and cloudiness, we welcome another dry and breezy summer day. What’s more, it is Friday. Happy Friday, Champs!

It is such a simple and descriptive saying, “The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.”, Napoleon Hill said that almost 100 years ago. We all want success. We all fear competitions. However, the real successful people have no competitions, because the majority of the competitions won’t get as far, as high, as the real successful.

What do the real successful do?

They know it. They contemplate the vision of being successful. If they are good speaking, they see themselves speak to millions and inspire them; if they are good at business, they see their business expanding world-wide and benefit the users; if they are good at arts, they see their work becoming the masterpieces which are exhibited in the altar of the peak of arts. They know it because they are combining their passion and talents. What they see is what they believe. Setbacks, challenges, are never their focus.

They stick to it. They are the most accountable group. They are accountable for their decisions, their choices and their lives. The onus of proving them right has always been on themselves. They keep their words. They walk their talk. They practice what they preach. Their stickability empowers them to control their actions and make them work.

They do it. They are the ones who have big dreams and grand visions. However, why only few successful? Because they are the ones who do it. They take consistent actions daily and keep consistent outcome in their mind. They never let any day slip without putting another entry of progress on their journal. They understand the meaning of the 10,000-hour rule and are on board the numbers game by doing it until they get excellent at what they dream.

They live it. Their mantras are – I can. I will. I am. They submerge themselves with successful people. They run from the negativity. They eager to start every day with a it-has-to-be-a-good-day mindset. They live every day with a keep-it-up work mode and taking actions enthusiastically with perseverance. They end every day with a new page on their journal witnessing something they complete that day and what’s for the next day. They live their dream in such a continuous cycle, which is how they never stop until they make it.

The strongest ones in the world are those who stand most alone.

Success is a very very lonely road. Very few people are willing to endure: the pain, the sacrifices to be successful. It is an uphill battle …and along that road, you are not going to see too many friends. You are going to see your shadow most often. But it is exactly when you see your shadows behind, you know you are marching toward the sun.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – What’s better?

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We have been offering an English program using children’s books, stories, jokes, and etc.  The purpose is to ease into improving English.  With the time, the learners will realize that they can express themselves more naturally using simple and concise language.  We believe that it is easier to keep up with learning when it is fun and applicable.

The learners feedback are the most that I like. After one class, one of the learner, who is a gentleman in his sixties, came to me and told me, “I really wish that you keep running the program. This is totally different from other English programs. The program not only help me learn the language and practice, it also make me think.  Think about the topics we discussed, like ethics, happiness, patience, teamwork….” Another lady is very fond of the stories. In the reviewing class of “The Penguin Story”, she told me excitedly that she told the story to her team in their MLM group meeting, encouraging them to be curious, have a vision and take actions to get the goal. After a few days, she called me and told me that her team had recruited another 28 people, since the members picture themselves as the curious Edna (the character in the Penguin Story), and explore their business with good intention and the right action.

Every class, we will have a new story.  At the beginning, I will point out the topics for discussion; then one by one, we read the story out loud, which was hard at the beginning, but an enjoyment now. Since there are not many hard or awkward vocabulary in children’s books, the learners are relaxed and interested. When it comes to the fun part, laughs will fill the room. What’s better is we go beyond the book. Based on the topics for discussion, we can get into very deep talks on the how-to’s, such as how to conquer fear, how to be more patience, how to match our attitude with our intentions, how to keep constructive relationship with others…

Finally, the learners get the beauty of this program – expressing comprehensive ideas with simple language and to the point.

The program has been running for 2 months and I realize that I have got even more than the learners.  Just to name a few:

  • Become more aware of my language. One of the principles of being a good instructor is to be encouraging and positive. How can we engage others mostly depends on what kind of language we use to communicate.  I used to teach children and I am very good at how to make them think and talk on their feet. But talking in the same way to adults can be offensive. Therefore, I use a lot of specific encouragement, meaning, encouraging the behavior, the word, the expression, the action, instead of a simple “That is good.”
  • Keep improving. Since I want to make the 2 hours of in-class teaching engaging, interesting and applicable, I will research a lot, read a lot and write a lot, also creating eye-catching slides for the instruction.  Sometimes it can be very tiring.  However, with the time, the process becomes more and more natural and flowing to me.  In addition, I realize I have improved a lot in teaching, analyzing, explaining and organizing, which is a side gain from teaching.
  • Have a sense of accomplishment. It is such an incentive for me to see the improvement of the learners. They speak 75% of the time in class. They get into discussions. They form the habit of practicing every day. They keep coming to class rain or shine. When I see their eyes, I know I am on the right track. I can really help them become better. In the meantime, I am becoming better, too.

Les Brown said, “Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours.”

Champs, reach out to the people who are in need of help. The moment you help them out of stuck, the moment you add another plus to the meaning of your life.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – Patience is an attitude.

patienceIn my class last night, we shared one of the classic stories from the Frog and Toad Together series, “The Garden”, in which after Toad planted some seeds that Frog gave to him in his garden, he talked to the seeds “Now seeds, start growing.”; nothing happened, he yelled at the seeds, “Now seeds, START GROWING.”, still no avail. After Frog told him that he might scare the seeds, he read a long story at night to the seeds, sang to the seeds, read poems to the seeds, played music to the seeds in the following days. Still, nothing happened. He finally fell asleep, believing that “these must be the most frightened seeds in the world.”  Toad was waken up by Frog, only to find that the small green plants were growing. He had to admit that “It is hard work.” (which obviously, whatever he did, no matter how hard he tried, didn’t help the seeds grow.)

What do you think Toad need instead? If you answer PATIENCE, then we can spend a little time on this topic.

From Wikipedia we know that patience is,

“the state of endurance under difficult circumstances, which can mean persevering in the face of delay or provocation without acting on negative annoyance/anger; or exhibiting forbearance when under strain, especially when faced with longer-term difficulties. Patience is the level of endurance one can take before negativity. It is also used to refer to the character trait of being steadfast. “

There are various definitions of patience. In science, in religions, in psychology, in philosophy, patience is defined as a choice, an important personal trait, the most valuable virtue of life, a steadfast belief, the ability to control one’s emotions, unshrinking forbearance and unassailable moral courage.

Since patience is so important, how can we practice patience?

  • When we wait for someone who is late for the appointment, are we patient?
  • When we are stuck in the traffic while on our way to celebrate a loved one’s birthday and kept checking the time, are we patient?
  • When someone verbally attacks us, we walk away cursing the wrongdoer, are we patient?

I thought the waiting, the accepting and the avoiding is a practice of patience, until I read this by Joyce Meyer:

Patience is not the ability to wait, but to keep a good attitude while waiting.

It hit me hard. I remember a saying “Attitude is everything.’. Even though it is a cliche, it has tremendous power.

Take a look at the appointment scene. You have been waiting for the person way beyond the reasonable window, yet you are still waiting, because you want to be patient. However, the moment the person shows up, instead of greeting with smile, you throw out a straight face. What do you think the other person will feel? No matter how long you have been waiting, how hard you have tried to be patient, a simple attitude (straight face) kills everything. Remember, Maya Angelou said, “…people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”

How about the traffic scene? You try to practice patience by not honking, not yelling. You know you are late for the dinner. At that moment, your phone rings and it is your wife asking why you are not home yet. Instead of calming down and explaining, you storm back, “I am in the F* traffic…”. You don’t need to say anything further, the night is ruined. No matter what beautiful flowers you buy or exquisite cake you order, a simple attitude (negative energy) kills everything. Remember our inner dialogue is the software that programs our attitude. It determines how we present ourselves to the world around us.

It is valuable and vital to match our action with our intention, so that we can get the outcome we want, in life and at work. The only tool is our ATTITUDE.

Next time when we want to be patient, remind ourselves from inside out that the message of being patient can only be conveyed to the others by holding a good attitude. When our attitude is right, our action is right.

Being a Jew in a Nazi concentration camp, Victor Frankl gave “attitude” the highest prize in Man’s Search for Meaning. He wrote that “everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – How would you grade?

mother-baby-holding-handsYesterday I watched a very moving video. It is an interview of some mothers and their kids, done separately.

At the beginning of the interview, the moms are asked “What is the headache about your kid?”. Here are some of the things the moms mentioned:

  • I am really angry when he is not listening.
  • She wants a a lot of attention.
  • He doesn’t eat any vegetables.
  • She cries four or five times a day.
  • ……

Next question, “If the full grade is 10, what would be your kid’s grade?”. Well, 5, 7, and 8 being the highest.

Now the scene turns to the kids. These are some of the things they mentioned:

  • I like it when mom plays with me.
  • I just want to give her a hug when I come back from school.
  • She makes the best lunch.
  • I just want protect her.
  • ……

Next question, “If the full grade is 10, how would you grade your mom?”. Wow, 10, 10, 10,000……

When the moms watch their kids’ interviews and hear what their kids say, no exception, they are all in tears, so am I. And the video ends with all the hugs and kisses and the happy scenes of mom and kids.

The questions are a bit tricky and you might say that the moms are tricked. But that’s exactly how we look at our kids. We always say that our love for our kids are unconditional and we love them for who they are. However, subconsciously we still apply our standards upon them and judge them to be good or bad, to be rebellious or obedient. While for kids, they love us solely because they love us. Despite our yelling, our pushing, our blaming or condemning, which might make them into tears, at the end of the day, they still come back to us with a hug or kiss, and tell us “I love you.”. No wonder one of my friends wrote in her journal, “Thank you, my Baby, for the love you give me. I will love you the way you love me. I will love you the way you want me to love you.” We owe our kids the love that is called unconditional love.

It doesn’t only apply to parenting. When we deal with anybody, if we can leave off our pre-judgment, if we can forget about our expectations, if we can always hold a sunny attitude, we will be seeing only the good. Remember, wherever the sun shines, the darkness can’t exist.

Let’s be the sunshine in our lives. Warm and light up our surroundings. Start from ourselves.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – How are you today?

greif and loveI read through Sheryl Sandberg’s post on Facebook in memory of her late husband with tears in my eyes. From the plain and simple language, I felt she was telling us from the bottom of her heart how she got back on track after the sudden tragedy. I can see her telling the story with tears in her eyes, yet in firm and confirming voice. She is telling us how to deal with our griefs with acceptance, acknowledgement, resilience and gratitude. To accept the loss, but not sinking into the emptiness of loss forever; to acknowledge the pain, be more open and vulnerable to let those who really care in, but not avoiding; to get back to do what’s really important, but not settling for the end of the world; to express the gratitude to what life teaches us and to people who try to help, but not giving up and giving in. It is when we realize that our life has a meaning, and on the way to find that meaning, that we really learn to accept, acknowledge, bounce back and appreciate.

I got another email from my previous workplace that a senior partner passed away yesterday. I didn’t have much contact with him, but we briefly talked once or twice. It is sad but it is part of life. It is always when we face significant incidence, like death, loss of loved ones, that we rethink about our lives.

The cliche says, “Life is short, enjoy it.”. However, what is “enjoy”? Does it mean we should live one day at a time like a passer-by? Does it mean we should indulge in the entice like no tomorrow? Does it mean we should settle for what we have for fear of losing it? Does it mean we should slow down our pace to make effort for the sake of “don’t worry, be happy”? Yes, we can. But what we get is never gonna be enjoy, because when we “enjoy” life like that, we put our responsibility aside, we let go our accountability to ourselves, we lose sight of our meaning in life. If that meaning and pursuit is that important to us, we will always find a way to get there; or else, we can always find excuses.

It is always when we keep our words, when we stick to our promise, when we fulfill our mission, when we deliver the results, can we really sit down and enjoy life. It is only at that time, can we say we follow the meaning of our lives and make a difference.

Acceptance of the things are not gonna be the same but still get it done is more optimistic than believing thing will be better.

Take back the groundless optimism and build a strong heart to hold ourselves accountable.

It can be hard, but it won’t be hard than grieving for a lost love. When we take the actions to face what life throw at us, we can finally ask ourselves, “How are you today?”

There’s no end to grief….and there is no end to love.

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W|D|R – Create Our Ecosystem of Personal Accountability

personal accountabilityMy friend asked me to write something about accountability. He said we should be accountable for ourselves and what we do. This is a very simple and concise explanation of Accountability. It is easier to have somebody else hold us accountable. The hard part is personal accountability meaning, like my friend said, we should be accountable for ourselves. HOW?

These are some suggestions that I’ve come up from my personal experience and work:

To hold ourselves accountable, first, we must be clear about the end result, meaning “Why we are doing this?”. I remember one of my clients came to me with a very strong desire to open up his own business. He told me he wanted to learn how to hold himself accountable through the whole process. He is a guy with tons of ideas, which is an excellent trait for an entrepreneur. I felt so happy for him. When we started to talk about his business plan, he got excited. I was excited too. However, after 30 minutes of non-stop talking touching almost every aspect in the market, I guess he felt tired; he stopped, looking at me a little confused. “Why am I doing this?” I followed up with a question, “Suppose you know why you are doing this, what difference will that make for you?” He thought for a moment and started to mention the self-realization, contribution of his strength, financial freedom and self-confidence. This time, he spoke a lot more slowly and I can feel the sincerity in his talk. After a couple of more following-up questions, he finally realized, all of a sudden, that all the freedom he wants is because he doesn’t want to be alone any more. He wanted to keep the companion. What a turning point! At the end, he said something that convinced me he was ready to be on his own right there right then and he will accomplish both in his business and in his relationship. He said, “I can see what I will be doing in 5 years time. After our meeting, I will have a really good talk with my girlfriend, telling her the reason why I will be doing this is to have a future with her. I want her to trust me that I am a good partner, but if I spend more time on the business than on her, I want her to understand that’s because I am building our future.” What a sweet spirit! Love can conquer all. I believe this is the most desirable “WHY” that will keep him on his path in the years to come. When we are clear about the “Why”, we always know the “How”, which is the first step of personal accountability.

Think about this – “Sporadic bursts of feverish effort, interspersed with months of inaction, are unlikely to net you a finished novel or a functioning small business by the end of the year. ” If it makes sense to you, congratulations, you have come to the second step in personal accountability, being consistent. We need momentum (or energy) to keep us going on the path to create wealth, maintain health and nourish relationship. Consistency is the only effective way to generate the momentum on our path to success.

Jerry Seinfeld is one of the most successful comedians of all‐time. He is regarded as one of the “Top 100 Comedians of All–Time” by Comedy Central. According to Forbes magazine, Seinfeld reached his peak in earnings when he made $267 million dollars in 1998. He achieved the remarkable consistency by performing, creating, entertaining at an incredibly high standard, show after show, year after year. This is what a young comedian shared what Jerry Seinfeld told him when he asked about “any tips for young comic”:

He said the way to be a better comic was to create better jokes and the way to create better jokes was to write every day.

He told me to get a big wall calendar that has a whole year on one page and hang it on a prominent wall. The next step was to get a big red magic marker. He said for each day that I do my task of writing, I get to put a big red X over that day.

“After a few days you’ll have a chain. Just keep at it and the chain will grow longer every day. You’ll like seeing that chain, especially when you get a few weeks under your belt. Your only job is to not break the chain.”

See? It boils down to a simple “not break the chain”. When you fill up your wall calendar with those big red X’s, you are already a person with high accountability. Isn’t that easy?

The final step in personal accountability is delivery of results no matter how small. If it turns out to be workable, do more; however, if we don’t see what we want, do something different, because we understand the WHY so clear that we know HOW to navigate our path and get where we want. By delivering the results, we maintain the power to control our lives. We weed out the excuses of not doing for fear of failure. The biggest enemy to personal accountability is avoidance.

Suppose we don’t avoid taking the small steps, because they are too small comparing to our goals, we will work on the small steps as diligently as we work on the big vision. When we regard the small steps as valuable as a big achievement, we are on a path to create success all along the way.

Suppose we don’t avoid listening to constructive criticism, because they are not appealing to our ears, we will be able to get different views of what we are doing. We are emptying our cups so that it can hold more constructive and productive ideas that we may consider on our way to accomplishment.

Suppose we don’t avoid keeping up with our time blocking schedule, because there are other things we have to deal with, we will feel more fulfilled after we fill up that time block as scheduled. In the meantime, we are informing other people that our time is valuable and we are teaching them to respect our time.

Suppose we don’t avoid talking about delivery of results, because we have been busy working all the time, we will be able to figure out what we can do to spend our time more effectively and productively, rather than jumping from one thing to another. We will only be able to know if what we are doing is right or wrong by looking at the results. Then we can decide whether to do more or do something different.

Carrying out our plan or schedule won’t be hard if we are able to see the progress. Progress is a series of results that we deliver using trial and learn on our way to any success.

Being clear about the WHY will motivate us to take consistent actions. The consistent action will create the results we can measure. This is the ecosystem of personal accountability.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – Are we ready?

conceptual_ageWhile I am reading the book, A Whole New Mind – Why Right-brainers will rule the future? by Daniel Pink, I would like to share some interesting points with you.

Remember in history, there were a few transitional ages that moving our society from the Agricultural Age forward, namely,

Industrial Age, which is a period of history that encompasses the changes in economic and social organization that began around 1760 in Great Britain and later in other countries, characterized chiefly by the replacement of hand tools with power-driven machines such as the power loom and the steam engine, and by the concentration of industry in large establishments. The Industrial Age is defined by mass production, broadcasting, the rise of the nation state, electric power, modern medicine and running water. The quality of human life has increased dramatically during the Industrial Age.

It is commonly believed that the Industrial Age was superseded by Information Age in the late 20th century.  Information Age is a period in human history characterized by the shift from traditional industry brought through industrialization by industrial revolution, to an economy based on information computerization. Digital Revolution is the character of this period, just as the Industrial Revolution marked the onset of the Industrial Age. The Information Age is formed by capitalizing on computer micro-miniaturization advances. This evolution of technology in daily life, as well as of educational life style, has allowed rapid global communications and networking to shape modern society. ( Kluver, Randy. “Globalization, Informatization, and Intercultural Communication”. United Nations Public Administration Network.)

The evolution of technology keeps bring changes to our society.  When companies start to seek more ways to reduce cost, to be more efficient, to focus their resources on their strengths, they started to outsource the routine work to knowledge workers where the demand can be met with lower cost. Instead, the modern corporations are more and more focusing on the areas where machines/computers/knowledge workers are not able to replace. This brings up the new age, the Conceptual Age. The Conceptual Age is the new era of work where current economic demand calls for workers who are skilled in areas guided by the right hemisphere of the brain including: Design, Story, Symphony, Empathy, Play and Meaning.

Design

It’s not necessarily for only the artists or designers to consider this sense. We can all create something in our lives. The design here means taking into consideration of the human elements. “Today, it’s economically crucial and personally rewarding to create something that is also beautiful, whimsical, or emotionally engaging.” (Pink, 2006, 65)

Story

A right story told at the right time leaves deeper impression than a well-designed statistic. In order to get our meaning across, to persuade, to bring people on board, the essence has become the ability to fashion a compelling narrative. By telling others our stories and listening to other people’s stories, we demonstrate our presence, and we acknowledge others’ feelings.

Symphony

It is quite self explanatory. A symphony requires all the instruments to play at the right time, in the right pace, with the right pitch. On a broad sense, the economy requires people who can bring different parts together and produce, like the conductor. For individuals, we need to cultivate our skills to see the bigger picture for our life and work, rather than focusing on the unmet needs.

Empathy

What make us distinguished from general public is our ability to understand what motivates our fellow men and women, to nurture relationships and to care for others.

Play

There are ample evidence showing the enormous health and professional benefits of laughter, lightheartedness, games and humor. In Conceptual Age, in life and in work, we all need play. It is the fun parts that make the wheel running.

Meaning

When we accept that there is something bigger than ourselves, when we enter the realm of pursuing significant desires for purpose, transcendence and spiritual fulfillment, when we understand that our happiness lies in the self-actualization while helping others, we will have found the meaning of our lives.

None of the above six skills can be outsourced or delegated. Whoever masters them first will have a huge advantage in the new age. Let’s get started.

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