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M|M|C Report – You’ve got to start somewhere.

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journeyHappy Monday, Champs!

It is such a great day to celebrate: the last day of a month and the first day of a week; the newest day in the rest of our lives; the 2-month mark of my member as a Toastmasters.

Before I joined Toastmasters this June, I had heard a lot about it. People join Toastmasters for various reasons. People walk their path along Toastmasters at their own pace. People demonstrate tremendous confidence knowing their status as a Toastmasters. However, nothing was motivated enough to help me take that step, until I felt the need – a platform to build up my confidence to speak in public, a classroom to practice and practice more of my speaking skills, a place to motivate me to listen more, read more and know more. At least, it made me feel accomplished that I’ve attained one of my goal this year, becoming a member of Toastmasters.

In the past two months, I did 5 speeches and received valuable feedback and evaluations every time. The safe learning environment, the diversified themes and topics, the various formats from scheduled speech to think/speak-on-your-feet Table Topics, there are so many more to explore. However, I didn’t know about them until I became one of them.

Now I am a gung-ho member of my club, as the President said. I made it a goal to finish my first level by the end of this year. As I picture myself there, I feel more reasons to stay on my path than the excuses not to go for it.

Have you read something like this,

  • “If you don’t start somewhere, you will never get anywhere.” – Bob Marley
  • “The secret to getting ahead is getting started.” – Mark Twain
  • “The one thing all famous authors, world class athletes, business tycoons, singers, actors, and celebrated achievers in any field have in common is that they all began their journeys when they were none of these things.” – Mike Dooley

Past or present, what has been cherished is the first step onto something leading to somewhere. So start your day and your week to do something, marking the start onto somewhere. Nothing can be guaranteed, but the harvest of your own words.

To your success.

Hanh  Consulting 

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M|M|C Report – Take Life Easy.

take-it-easyBrought up in a traditional family, I have learned to be serious in life. With an organized and serious attitude, I had been the top student since elementary school. With an organized and serious attitude, I had received recognition in all the places that I had ever worked. I thought seriousness is a virtue I have that will benefit me, so I decide to continue. Whenever I say what I will do, I do it. Whenever people ask me for help, I go all the way to help. Whenever things are not going forward, I study the issue, get to know the cause and make it happen. Pretty much, these years, I am a person that others can count on with no exceptions, because I am serious with what I say, what I do and what I promise. To me, seriousness means structured, organized and get things done. I function exceptionally when things are structured, organized and done. So, I thought life is like this. Everybody is serious with the things they do and everything get done on time.

However, after my first child was born, the strong belief that I had been holding gave me a hard blow on the head. When I was on my maternity leave, knowing that I had day after day at home, I made plans to get the house well organized, I made lists of what needed to be done. At that time, I had that beautiful picture how clean the house would be, how tasty the dinner would be, how wonderful I would feel as a stay-home-woman (mother and wife). However, the baby required frequent and unexpected attending; while being the ideal mom who was always there when my baby daughter needed me, my brain had never stopped thinking of the next project on the list; therefore, I was torn between baby-caring and house-keeping. At the end of the day, I only felt exhausted and disappointed, exhausted by the back and forth and disappointed by non-accomplishing of my project. I burst into crying one day as if the sky was falling onto me. With trial and learn, I learned life’s lesson the hard way that taking life too seriously would only burn myself out. Later on, I discarded the list and spent whatever time my daughter wanted me to be with her, not be bothered with the dishes in the sink, the unanswered phone calls or the shelves I planed to clean. Once it happened, I became happier, enjoyed my baby a lot more; and the funny thing was that my house was still organized even though not sparkling any more. Why do I need it to be sparkling all the time, anyway?

After experience life’s first lesson, I learned to loose up a bit, at least I wouldn’t care too much about getting all the things done. I learned to take steps. I learned to finish today’s portion of duty and then enjoy the rest of the day. What’s the point of finishing something earlier, when I already have a good plan to get it done on time? Rather than focusing on what I need to do, I look more at what I have done, no matter how little it is, it is a sense of accomplishment. The more accomplished I feel along the way, the more I am willing to do. It becomes entertaining not straining.

Life has been such a generous teacher. It never gets tired of teaching me lessons without my consent. The other day, when I was supervising my daughter to play the piano with seriousness, she said “Mom, I don’t like playing piano.”. What? My first reaction would be “How dare you? I spent my time accompanying you to practice, and now you are telling me I am wasting my time and money? ” On another occasion, I pointed out to my business partner something that we can do better to propel the business, I got a question “What are you insinuating?” What? My first reaction was to look up the word in the dictionary. Once I learned its meaning, I couldn’t help yelling inside, “I had been such an unconditionally supportive business partner, supportive without reservation, putting up with your criticism of me being negative, but when I point out something beneficial for the business, even though it might sound harsh (actually I softened it a lot), does it give you the right to judging me being insinuating?” I need apology.

Later on, we still have some kind of tension when my daughter practices the piano. I didn’t get any apology from my then business partner for a month. Amusingly, my daughter still plays the piano and has the time that she enjoys the playing. My then business partner must be thriving without my critic and keeps the business growing his way. They have more space to check in on their feelings. And more importantly, I can still function. It is taking it easy that has changed my attitude. It is loosing it up that brings me more content in life.

When I can find more content in life, I thrive. I smile more and I know that is the most beautiful smile.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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M|M|C Report – Back on Track

backontrackThis post should have been posted yesterday to be called M|M|C Report, but a little procrastination, a little laziness and a little swamp, gave me the excuse not to.  I am still catching up on my work after 2-week vacation.  To be honest, I really didn’t feel so reluctant to come back to work. I guess I do love my job. I do love to do something, to complete something, in the meantime, contribute to my paycheck.

The only thing I found is that I kind of lose the fluency of speaking. That’s probably because my lack of talking during the vacation.  I used to argue/debate in my second language.  I used to talk in my second language every day; while in the two-week vacation, I lost my language partner, and I really didn’t brush on my language as much as I used to do.  So I am genuinely happy to go back to my Toastmasters club today and continue my improvement.

We talked about competition today. The question I got was “When was the last time you compete for something? What was your tactic or strategy?” Actually, I don’t think I get into competition with others a lot. I know what I do, so I like to do things my way and get it done. The only situation I could think of was at job interviews, as I know there must be other candidates competing for the positions. Every job interview is an invisible warfield.

The best interview I think I had was my first job interview after college. As a newly graduate, I didn’t have Canadian work experience, but I knew what I could do. So before the interview, I had a clear action plan. After checking the firm’s website, knowing their expertise areas and anything related to my strength which I can contribute to, I brought with me my legal research project binder and my A+-across-the-board transcript, as well as a genuine me.

When I sat across the desk from the interviewers at this big law firm, I was energetic and ready to answer all their questions. I guess my energy transferred onto them, and the whole 40 minutes was communicative, cooperative and fun, like a conversation between acquaintance. The moment I decided to be myself, I started to take the interview as a conversation, a two-way process between the interviewers and me to get to know more about each other, not a test or inquiry. I realized that this mindset helped me become more calm and confident, because I just need to tell them about myself, the most familiar topic for me. During the interview, I not only showed them what I can do, but also honestly told them what I had never done and had no experience for; however, I added up my life experience of coming to this new country and assimilating into it, which was a much bigger challenge than that at work. When I told them my stories, I could see the sparks in their eyes, which is when I reaffirmed to myself that personal story was the most powerful tool in “warfield”, which was what differentiates us from any other person. I believe it was my genuine and my integrity that won me over the other candidates.  However, I had to decline their offer, as the law firm where I had my co-op offered me the position before them.

My suggestions at job interviews:

  • Take it as a conversation, a two-way process to know each other.
  • Be energetic: everybody likes people with enthusiasm to uplift themselves.
  • Be genuine: no need to sugar coat your experience. 
  • Of integrity: walk your talk. The moment people feel the conflict, the trust drains.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

 

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M|M|C Report – After the Tide

oceans-tideHappy Monday! It’s finally summer now.  The temperature for this week is supposed to be stable at 32.  We are going on a family exploration trip to East Canada next week.  Thinking about the two-week getaway is exciting.  It’s an adventure to me, to the kids and the family.

I learned that the tide at Bay of Fundy in New Brunswick is phenomenal and I couldn’t  wait but to check it out on Youtube. While I watched the video, something hit me that happened two years ago.  I visited my cousin in Japan two years ago.  We joined a tour group to Hokkaido.  It was a different experience from my other tours. The tour guide was a short man, Mr. Tanaga, probably in his fifties. He was more scholastic than entertaining.  From time to time, he would say something that start a talk among the group.  I was kind of enjoying the guide.

After a big tide ebbed, Mr. Tanaga guided us to the shore. There were already many people there picking up the fishes left on the beach. To our excitement, our group joined the picking. Some of us got salmon, and others got tuna. Pretty soon, my cousin and I collected a full bucket. After the work-out, everybody took a break and started to talk about how we were going to cook these fishes and made a big feast. Mr. Tanaga broke his silence, he said, “Do you think these fishes are the same as the ones on the table? They were not caught because of greediness.” I was puzzled and asked, “Aren’t they all fish? What is the difference?” Mr. Tanaga let out a sigh and said, “These fishes were left after the ebb. They are the ones in trouble. Do you still have the heart to eat them? Why not we let them out to the ocean?” The group looked at one another and realized that it would be a suffering for these distressed fish. What we could offer was to set them free into where they belonged to, which could be a good deed. So we started to dump the buckets, or bags of fishes into the sea. While we looked at them swimming away, I felt a different dynamic in our group.  It was like everybody feeling relaxed and genuine happiness.

After the day trip, we were still talking about the happiness of letting go the fishes. Mr. Tanaga came to us, saying that one of his friends would close up his store tomorrow, and invite us to do some shopping before the closing-up. Well, liquidation meant good bargin, so we were delighted to go, esp. when we know the store had electronics, cosmetics, jewels and local specialties. When we got there, there were people lining up with full cart of products at the cashier. We couldn’t wait to jump into the spree. However, when we realized that very few products were on sale, our excitement ebbed. We each picked a few small stuff and checked out. Later when we saw Mr. Tanaga, he was holding two big bags of stuff with joy. One of the girls asked, “Why not these products on sale?” After a good few minutes, he answered, “These products are genuine. Why should they be sold cheaper?” “While, if they are of the same stuff as other stores, why you guys all shop there and buy so much?” Mr. Tanaga smiled and said slowly, “We all came to buy from the store, just to show the owner that he is good at the business side of it. He has been making a lot of efforts in the past years to run the business. Maybe pretty soon, he will be confident enough to open a new store somewhere more profitable.” Our jaws dropped. Wow, buying from a closing-up store doesn’t only mean to get some good bargain, but also to show comfort, encouragement, care and confidence to the owner.

The ebbing of the tides is when some fishes get into trouble. The closing-up of a store is when the owner meets with hardship. What can we do when we see others in an unfavorable situation? Are we gonna kick them downer, remain a stander-by or we can do something? By sending the unlucky fishes back into the water and buying more from a closing-up store, Mr. Tanaga demonstrated to us his kind and warm heart with his actions. We realize that it is at the time of the ebb, when no pretension is camouflaging, that we can figure out friends or foes. However, it is the fact whether we are the vulnerable fishes left by the tide, or the greedy fishes caught by lure, that differentiate our destination.

I am so looking forward to what the tides at Bay of Fundy will teach me.  Happy vacation!

To your success!

Hanh Consulting

 

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M|M|C Report – Coaching is all about you.

coachingWhat is coaching? Coaching is all about you.

Take a look at Rey Carr’s article about what is coaching and you will understand why it is important for any one to have a coach.

Just like its original meaning as a carriage transporting people from where they are physically to where they want to go, metaphorically “coach” has become the one who use tools to take people from where they are to where they want to be. Through the process of coaching, one will be able to gain clarification, motivation, inspiration and willingness to be where they want to be.

The reason why we say coaching is all about you, is because of the following reasons:

  • There’s no one-size-fits-all process for coaching. Every interaction between the coach and the coachee must be dealt with individually. Due to difference in personality, social background, experience, even the same situation must be handled differently for it to work. So it is YOU who make the difference.
  • You know where you are and where you want to be. In majority of the cases, it is not that you don’t know what to do, it is either you refuse to do something because you can’t see the difference if you do it, or you fear to do something because you don’t know if you are able to complete it. Let me give you an example. Suppose you are going to the corner store on the street. You know your starting point and your destination, do you need to hesitate how to get there? No. You just take your steps and go. It is the same with anything in your life. Once your objective is clear enough, you don’t need to fear, avoid, hesitate, you just need to do it. Coach is able to help you clarify your objectives, making it so clear that you will have the confidence to get there.
  • You will be able to get where you want to be from coaching. Speaking of confidence, you might say, “I don’t have the confidence to get out of the current adversity, because I have never dealt with such situation, so I don’t know if I am able to handle the challenges. What can I do?” Ok, in order to see your potentials, let’s look at them this way. Suppose that a miracle happens while you were asleep, all the challenges you are facing now are more or less resolved, what difference will you see the next morning showing you that the miracle happens? What will you do then that you are not doing now? On a scale of 10 to 1, 10 is the situation right after the miracle happens and 1 being the opposite, where are you now? How did you manage to get to that score not any lower? When the coach walks with you through these questions, you are training your brain to flash back the things that you did before with your strength. If it worked in the past, it can be repeated, meaning you are able to apply the same practice to deal with your current situation. You are utilizing your existing resources which were previously blinded from your sight.
  • You can become a coach for somebody else to help others achieve more. The ability to awake the dormant resources can open a new horizon for our lives. Once you obtain the capability, you become unstoppable. You can always see the potential, the strength the possibility in any situation. You will become the most positive doer and creator in your circle. What people see from you is something that they can see happen to themselves. It is not just a simple hope, but a life-long contentment generated from growth and improvement.

So smart people get smarter; successful people get more successful. That is the outcome of having a coach. It is demonstrated in personal development, adult education, psychology (sports, clinical, developmental, organizational, social and industrial) and other organizational or leadership practices.

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Coaching is all about you. 

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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M|M|R – Just do it!

just do itHappy Monday, Champs!  Are you ready to kick start a new week? Remember today is the newest day we will have in the rest of our lives.  Make the rest of our lives the best of our lives.

We finally had a perfect weekend for water activities in Toronto.  Better grab the short hot days and enjoy summer, so we spent the weekend by the beach of Lake Ontario. Moreover, I also had a real-life experience of “Just Do It.”

While we were enjoying the sunshine and the breeze, my eight-year daughter built a “swimming pool” really close to the water on the beach. As far as I remembered, she did spent quite some time working on it. It was pretty cool. Even though the water kept brushing off on the wall, with her continuous fixing and maintaining, adding more sand to it, the pool was in real good shape.

Now it’s my six-year old son’s turn to have his swimming pool built and he came to me for help. “That won’t be hard” as I thought to myself and I came with him to the water. We built the wall on the far side from the water, like a curve.  When it came to close the circle, problems arose. The sand close to the water was wet and sliding, esp. with the water kept coming up, there was no way to build a bump, let alone a wall. I kept looking at my daughter’s project and mine, and had no idea how to proceed.

“Mom, you just need to bring more dryer sand from that far side and it stays, then you can build it higher to close the pool.” Well, the dryer sand was about 10 meters away from where we build the structure. “Isn’t it too troublesome to walk back and forth for the dryer sand?” that was my initial reaction. Troublesome, not easy.

My girl kept maintaining her structure with pride and my boy kept pushing me to continue. “Mom, just do it. Let me help you with the sand.” my daughter started to bring dryer sand from 10 meters away. I guess I had no other choice but do it.

Guess what? It worked. With dryer sand as the foundation, we use wetter sand to elevate the wall. Tada! We closed the circle right by the water. Even though the water kept brushing off on the wall, with the dryer and solid foundation, our structure stood up the wear off till the end of the day. There were people walking by saying “Impressive”.

I was quite sweaty from the hard work, but I decided to put down this piece as Monday inspiration.

We all want something good, something beautiful, something ideal, we always have dreams of becoming this and that, however, the only way to do it is JUST DO IT. It was such a brilliant slogan for Nike and it will be such a simple and applicable mantra for us.

Napoleon Hill said, “Dream is only achievable until we write it down.” Goal is only an aspiration until we roll up our sleeves to take the first small step.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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M|M|R – Perseverance only, is not enough.

Three-Feet-From-GoldAfter the rain fell perseverantly throughout the weekend, it finally cleared up this morning. We see the bright sunshine, the temperature rises and it’s like summer again.

Have you ever describe the rain using “Perseverance”? Perseverance means continuing in a course of action without regard to discouragement, opposition or previous failure. The rain did go on and off, on and off, the whole weekend.

In his all-time classic book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill tells the story of  R. U. Darby.

Harby’s uncle had gold fever, so he staked his claim and started digging.  After a lot of hard work, the uncle found a vein of ore, so he covered up his find and returned home to raise the money for the machinery that he would need to bring the ore to the surface.

They raised the money and Darby travelled with his uncle back to the site to make their fortune.

Things started well and before long, they had enough to clear their debts.  They were excited, everything from here on would be profit and things were looking good.

Then the supply of gold stopped.  The vein of ore had disappeared. They kept on digging, but found nothing.

After a while, they quit in frustration and sold their machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars.

After they went home in disappointment, the astute junk man called in a mining engineer who checked the mine and calculated that there was a vein of gold just three feet from where Darby and his uncle had stopped digging. The junk man went on to make millions from the mine.

Darby returned home, paid back everyone who had lent him money and was determined to learn from his mistake in giving up too soon. He went on to become a phenomenally successful insurance salesman, more than recouping what he would have made from the gold mine.

This is the famous story of “Three Feet From Gold”. It is such a lesson that reminds us to keep up when we are so close to what we want, our dreams, our success, the relationship we want, the fortune we pursue, and etc.

Perseverance is one of the key factors leading to success. However, when do we know whether we should be persistent or let go?

Think about this. You know your goal is to run 20 minutes on the treadmill everyday. Now there’s only 2 minutes left. Will you keep it up even if you are really out of breath? You have been asking this girl out for weeks using various strategies. You can feel the loose in her attitude. Will you keep it up or just let her go? Your goal for the day is to finish the report. When it’s time to go home and you only have the final paragraph to finish. Will you keep on writing to finish it or leave it unfinished and go home?

When the goal is very clear, when we are very clear about the goal, when we know clearly what it would be like when we reach the goal, we are more likely keep it up, continue until we finish. It’s not likely that we will stop “Three Feet From Gold”.

Therefore, don’t feel bad about not keeping on with something. Try to clear up what you want to get from the keeping up, a.k.a. your goal, you will a lot more likely to finish it, because you know that is important to you.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting 

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M|M|C Report – You don’t need to be a salesman to know how to sell.

tenacityIt says being in sales is like being in battlefield. Good Salesmen share a lot in common with a good soldier.

Do you agree that we are selling every day, no matter what industry we are in? As employees in the office, we are selling ourselves to the management that we are the qualified employees, so that when it comes to promotion or salary raise, we would be considered; as students in class, we are selling ourselves to the professors that we are diligent students, who are able to apply and multiply what we learn and when it comes to scholarship or award, we would be nominated; as job seekers, we are selling ourselves to the potential employers that we are competent candidates, so that we would be shortlisted; when we come back home, we are selling ourselves to the family that we are loving and contributing members, so that our requests could be accepted. You don’t need to be a salesman to know how to sell.

However, whether we can be good at selling or not, does not solely depend on our skills, our resources or our background. A lot of the areas we think we are lack of, can be compensated with things from within us.

History is a mirror. Let’s take a look at some of the famous outnumbered battles ended up with the victory of the weak forces:

Battle of Thermopylae (480 BC), a battle between an alliance of Greek city-states, led by King Leonidas of Sparta, and the Persian Empire of Xerxes I over the course of three days, during the second Persian invasion of Greece in August or September 480 BC, where Spartans kept resistance against much larger Persian army, being defeated eventually, but allowing other Greek forces to prepare to fight.

The Battle of Yorktown, American Revolution (1781), was the climax of the American Revolution and directly led to the independence of the United States of America. The idea that a group of poorly armed, loosely organized colonists would have the audacity to challenge the massive, experienced army and navy of their rulers seemed impossible when the revolution’s first shots rang out at Lexington and Concord in 1775. Despite the huge imbalance of power, the Americans understood that time was on their side and keep fighting for freedom and dignity. From the days following their victory at Yorktown, Americans have steadily gained power and influence up to their present role as one of the world’s most prosperous nation and the military superpower.

There were also numerous guerrilla forces won the battles in the anti-Japanese war. They contributed significantly to the victory of the World War II. The guerrilla had poor equipment, much smaller forces and less advanced tactics, yet they fought with strong courage, determination and persistence. Despite the poor condition, the lack of supply and the short of hands, they created history with unbelievable victories one after another.

In history, a good swordman would always have the courage to draw out his sword in the face of a stronger rivalry. No matter what the result was, the bravery of drawing out the sword was a full demonstration of courage, confidence and persistence.

  • When we complain about lack of supply or resources, we are turning away from our courage to take the initiative to seek what we think we are short of.
  • When we hesitate whether to initiate a new conversation, we are blinded from our confidence that we can do it.
  • When we feel frustrated by not seeing any progress and think of giving up, we are abandoning our persistence and stop “three-feet-from-gold”.

It takes time to build up our muscles of courage, confidence and persistence. But we can see change right away, if we start to become aware of our reaction in the presence of challenge or setback.

We are all the best of us in our special position. Whether we can become who we want to be all depends on our awareness, determination and actions.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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M|M|C Report – If you think you fail, you are right!

napoleon hillIt is pretty tough, cold and cruel, isn’t it? But that’s the kind of message I would like you to remember. No one likes to fail. No one wants to admit a failure. However, most of us do say “I failed to ……” when things are not going smoothly. If you think you fail, you are right!

Just like Henry Ford said, “If you think you can do a thing, or think you can’t do a thing, you are right.”. It is not the thing, not the obstacle, not the setback, that defeats us, it is US, ourselves. Neuroscientists have already revealed that our brain is wired the way that, emotionally arousing, stressful events activate the Amygdala (the “traffic light”), which causes the activating trigger to become firmly rooted into our implicit memory. That is why we remember the threat, trauma or loss so vividly and long-term. It seems that our brains are programmed for failure.

However, on second thoughts, our brain reacts to the adversities; if we change our definition of adversities, we can trick our brains that what we are facing is just temporary. What I learned from “Outwitting the Devil” by Napoleon Hill, is that, don’t confuse temporary defeat with permanent failure, meaning changing the way we look at obstacles and setbacks, we will get back on track more easily. We will not fail until we admit it. If you ever watch boxing, you will understand its meaning. No matter how many times a party is knocked down, as long as he stands up, he doesn’t fail the game. Since none of us like to fail, if we are beaten down by hardship, poverty, dissatisfaction, or things not going our way, remember that these are temporary, these will, too, pass.

It is not positive fantasies, it is our internal motivation to get back on track quickly. We have that strong desire to succeed, big or small; we have tried different ways to get there, either make it or not, so to the point of now, we have already known what works and what not. By telling our brain that what we are facing right now is temporary, no stress, no threat, the Amygdala will relax, our view for next step is still open, and we will have more options to proceed.

In addition to the biological mechanism, we are training our metal muscles at the same time. Like Napoleon Hill said, “Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” You don’t want to be the one who is only three feet from gold. You don’t want to the one with “Had I….” as your mantra. You want to succeed. You want to get to your goal.

If you think you can do it, you are right!

To your success!

Hanh Consulting 

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M|M|C Report – They are all round. What’s the difference?

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Please take a look at the above graphs. Basically they are all type of round, but do you see the difference? Don’t worry about the words, just take a look at the structure.

See that? They can be flat, upwards or downwards, even though the cross-sectional views are all round.

Most of us have learned about the upward and downward spirals. We know that upward spirals represents growth, improvement, increase, which will lead to success, happiness and the good stuffs; while downward spirals are signals of decrease, dragging, deterioration, which will lead to the negativity. When things or we are on the upward spiral, we know that things are getting better, economy are going up, business is prospering, and we will keep doing what we are doing right now to keep the momentum. On the contrary, when things or we are on the downward spirals, we know things are not going so well, productivity suffers, future seems dim and not much is achieved, when we will change what we are doing and do something different.

The spirals are also a symbol of how to deal with hurdles, setbacks and challenges in our lives. When we demonstrate perseverance, resilience, positivity and optimism, we can see our path is going up, like the upward spirals. Even though there are times that it seems we are back to zero, we are actually stand on a higher level of zero and start from the higher starting point to accumulate the achievement. However, if we always see the dark side, practice procrastination, shift responsibilities to others, it seems that we are not the problem, but in the meantime, we are not growing, the whole project or business is not growing, because we are not nurturing growth, we are not facilitating communication, we are avoiding reality and shun from criticism. It is obviously that we know which type of spiral to create.

However, how about the flat one? Where does it lead to? It is a representation of MOTION. In one of my recent training classes, we discussed the difference between MOTION and ACTION. The results is kind of controversial, but I would like to share it with you. Some people  say they are the same process; some people say motion leads to action and action needs motion; some people say motion is driven by desire and action deliver the result. Every answer has its legitimacy based on the person’s experience and habit. It was one of James Clear’s blog opened my thoughts. Take a look at some of the examples he listed:

  • If I outline 20 ideas for articles I want to write, that’s motion. If I actually write and publish an article, that’s action.
  • If I email 10 new leads for my business and start conversations with them, that’s motion. If they actually buy something and turn into a customer, that’s action.
  • If I search for a better diet plan and read a few books on the topic, that’s motion. If I actually eat a healthy meal, that’s action.
  • If I go to the gym and ask about getting a personal trainer, that’s motion. If I actually step under the bar and start squatting, that’s action.
  • If I study for a test or prepare for a research project, that’s motion. If I actually take the test or write my research paper, that’s action.

Do you see the difference? Motion can never, by itself, lead to the results that you want to achieve. Most of the time, motion leaves us an impression that we are busy, so we say to ourselves that we are making progress; motion might set up a perfect circle in disguise of trap that we keep coming back to on our way to success. The books on success always talk about get up where we fall, but please do not miss a point. The essential benefit of that fall is to learn from the fall and do something different. Otherwise, we are on the flat circle. We fall exactly where we fell last time, the time before last…. The impression is that we are bouncing back, but the reality is we are not progressing, because we are not delivering results and nothing can be achieved this way, except for a more tolerant attitude. This is a kind of false optimism.

Please wake up from the circle mentality that you are not aware of. The only sign of progress is delivery of results. PERIOD. We can say others’ are picky, are judgmental, bias, not understanding, whatever you name it, but at the end of the day, the best tool to make them shut up is the result we deliver. We can only build results on results. It is absolutely a step by step journey. No single step can be missed if we want to build a solid kingdom of our wealth, fame and success.

Don’t confuse motion and progress. A rocking horse keeps moving but does not make any progress.

– Alfred A. Montapert (the author of The Supreme Philosophy of Man: The Laws of Life)

To your success.

Hanh Consulting

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