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2016-11-04

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Quote: Any eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. – Mahatma Gandhi

The only time that you should get even with someone is when they do something good. – Jamy Bechler @CoachBechler

It is Friday. TGIF. It is a day to celebrate after the uphill and downhill of a whole work week. If everyone is given the same rights, then everyone should have the same opportunity to live Friday the way they want. But it is not the same to the at least 200 refugees out of Libya.

I heard from the news this morning that out of Libya on the Mediterranean Sea, 2 boats full of refugees sunk and over 200 people lost their lives, with a certain number of pregnant women and children. My first reaction was shock. “Not again.” I pray for those lost lives. Wish them rest in peace. No more fleeing. No more threatening. No more risking. All ends at that moment.

After attending the 6 Degree Conference this September, I started to follow certain people on Twitter, like some special correspondents, MSF, AJ English Channel, I learned about the bombing in Aleppo , Syrian refugees, mistreatment to the black. What is wrong with the world? What is the purpose of those who elevate their own power fights or personal preference to the sacrifice of normal people, their peer humans? Nobody says you should save the world. But if everyone, literally, everyone manages his/her own business, does the right thing, and cares about the consequence of his/her doings, the world can be a much better place.

On Twitter, I saw Gandhi’s above quote posted by Jamy Bechler. What if people can really open their eyes and minds, read the words and reflect on their doings?

It is easier said than done. However, we can always do something. When it comes to war or regional conflicts, the root cause is nothing but selfishness and ignorance. No matter how grand or religious or righteous is claimed, the truth that cities are rooted, people are killed and economy is ruined, can not be denied. It is the outrageous selfish that blinds the eyes and block the hearts of some people to the sufferings and pains of peer humans. The war creators only have eyes for their power, their proclamation of righteousness, their status and their financial interests. Have they ever thought about what the purpose is to occupy acres and acres of land without livelihood of people? Have they ever thought about what the purpose of becoming the controllers of an area without peace, nothing but rubble, wreckage and blood? Even when they become the controllers, death and aging are not going to surrender to them. The excessive power and money won’t buy them any extra day. Instead of creating chaos and tragedy in the years of their livelihood, please act the way that they proclaim to keep world peace, generate prosperity and practice love which is being accommodating, acceptance and caring.

A little a time towards world peace.

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2016-11-03

If you aren’t big enough to stand criticism, you’re too small to be praised. – Earl Deason
Quoted by Tim Fargo

I am very self-conscious about different opinions. If I spend time drafting something, when someone points out things they want to change their way, I will become irritated, especially when these are only minor styles rather than something must be changed. I notice my attitude change, so I suggest to continue further conversation some other time.

After a few minutes of calming down, I couldn’t help but laughing at my stubbornness. What is the big deal of changing it. Why not do what they like. At least the other people are happy and I have nothing to lose.

I know why I become irritated when such thing happens. First, I think too much of my work. I hold the principle that if it is not critical, no need to waste time making the change. Second, unless you have a better idea, why should I listen to you. Third, I did the work so I know it better than you, who on earth are you jumping up critique me?

Considering Earl Deason’s words, I am not big enough to take criticism. On the one hand, I think too much of self. As per James Allen said in his work As A Men Thinketh, we separate ourselves from happiness and content when we only focus on self. Narcissists live in their own world, self admired but lonely. On the other hand, I put too much attention on other’s opinions and take them personally. The moment I hand over the controlling power, my world tilted. I need to regain my control. It is a power struggle.

Separate persons from things, separate feelings from realities. We need the right reactions to criticism and praise, so that we won’t feel hurt facing criticism and won’t feel inflated receiving praise.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-11-02

Quote: Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Mahatma Gandhi

Quoted by Tim Fargo

Would you feel happy if you survive a flood? Sure do, right? It is like given another chance from death. I read a story about a girl who is not very good at swimming but survived a severe flood.

In her story, she said that the moment she was pulled into the torrent, her strongest thought was to survive. So she fought against the current hoping to keep her head above water. At the beginning, she was strong enough to use all four to keep struggling in the current. It was cold, threatening and helpless. So after a few minutes, when she consumed all her energy, she found it was harder and harder to keep herself floating. “I am going to die. I don’t want to but I have to.” After a brief prayer, she released her tension, gave up the fighting, spread all four and got ready to die. Miraculously, instead of falling down, she found herself floating on the water with the flow to downstream. When the torrent was less ferocious, she was able to grab the branch by the bank and pulled herself to safety.

You think I am telling you to give up fighting and wait for dying? I am not a wicked witch from Halloween. I would like you to rethink how to live, and furthermore, how to live happily.

There are multiple explanation to Gandhi’s quote. My take-on is that when what we think, what we say and what we do are in harmony, we are no longer in a fighting mode. Instead, we say what we think and we do what we say. There is no more pretention, no more justification. Every side of us is in alignment.

When we say “I love you.” to someone we dear, we are thinking the loving thoughts of what makes this person lovable, furthermore, we are doing things that demonstrate our love. Especially when things are not going so smooth, when we are in conflicts, if we let the love thoughts penetrate our physical and mental realm, we will find a space for ourselves to harmony, the inner peace, which allows us to keep thinking, saying and doing the love acts. Even when the person is no longer in love with us, we are still in control of our mental state. We did our part and be who we are, the rest is not in our control. The reality hurts, but the self-affirmation empowers us to restore the relationship or let go of it wisely and managably.

When we say “I will be there.”, we are extending our benevolence. We think we would like to help, we tell the people that we will help and we roll over our sleeves to lend a hand. It is not the time spent on help, nor the care to help that consumes us, it is the struggling about worthiness. However, when the thinking, saying and doing are in-line, we do not need to torment ourselves on whether it is worth helping, because the worthiness is out of the question when it is our decision to help in the first place. We are not the victims of betrayal, instead, we are the willingly helper.

Keeping what we think, what we say and what we do in harmony is building up our character and practicing integrity. It says that “Honesty is telling others; while integrity is telling ourselves.”. Our character is our brand. We are responsible to build it up and keep it. Walking our talk eliminates the internal struggles and questionings. The less noise, the more peaceful; the more peaceful, the happier we experience.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-11-01

The more things are forbidden, the more popular they become. – Mark Twain
Quoted by Chuck Canady

I remember a commercial I watched on TV a few years ago. On a snowy, icy cold day, a tank truck filled with beer parked outside a convenient store beside the gas station. There was this enticing picture of a sparkling beer glass fill with bubbling bear, covered with water drops from the cold cold bear inside. A man was so attracted to the picture and approaching the truck, so the truck driver reminded him, yelling, “Don’t touch the truck! Don’t touch the truck!”, several times. Despite the repeated reminder, the man couldn’t help but licking on the surface of the tank. Guess what? You know it. His tongue got stuck on the metal surface. The more we say don’t, the more likely people will do. How amusing!

Forbidden, sometimes refers to reminders to take precautions, such as “Don’t touch the truck.”; sometimes refers to status of exclusivity, such as the “Forbidden City” in China, which used to be the exclusive residence of the aristocracy; sometimes refers to taboos, which is how euphemism is created. In a word, the purpose of forbidden is to keep away.

It is funny that people are willing to do anything to keep certain information away from being known, creating the forbidden area. Lucky enough they can survive the undisclosure. However, what if the forbidden was broken and the information leaks? It can be quite embarrassed, and even devastating.

The 2016 US Presidential election is such an amazingly crafted and directed drama if there has ever been a play writer and a director. Nobody knows what the next development of the plot is. Things got disclosed with unbelievable speed and timing. Neither of the candidates needs to spend time writing their autobiographies. Their history, their experience and their hidden stories have all been dug out of the forbidden area, becoming popular propaganda. Furthermore, people who got involved in the disclosure, the leak, the spreading, all become popular. If the candidates are able to manipulate the situation like this even before they have the power, what else will they do when they are in power? If half of everything they claimed on the rivalry is true, will the Americans trust their country with the jokers, or plotters or players? The forbidden can create history; it can also break power.

Risky but entertaining. Are we talking about a country’s most serious event?

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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