Quote: Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Mahatma Gandhi
Quoted by Tim Fargo
Would you feel happy if you survive a flood? Sure do, right? It is like given another chance from death. I read a story about a girl who is not very good at swimming but survived a severe flood.
In her story, she said that the moment she was pulled into the torrent, her strongest thought was to survive. So she fought against the current hoping to keep her head above water. At the beginning, she was strong enough to use all four to keep struggling in the current. It was cold, threatening and helpless. So after a few minutes, when she consumed all her energy, she found it was harder and harder to keep herself floating. “I am going to die. I don’t want to but I have to.” After a brief prayer, she released her tension, gave up the fighting, spread all four and got ready to die. Miraculously, instead of falling down, she found herself floating on the water with the flow to downstream. When the torrent was less ferocious, she was able to grab the branch by the bank and pulled herself to safety.
You think I am telling you to give up fighting and wait for dying? I am not a wicked witch from Halloween. I would like you to rethink how to live, and furthermore, how to live happily.
There are multiple explanation to Gandhi’s quote. My take-on is that when what we think, what we say and what we do are in harmony, we are no longer in a fighting mode. Instead, we say what we think and we do what we say. There is no more pretention, no more justification. Every side of us is in alignment.
When we say “I love you.” to someone we dear, we are thinking the loving thoughts of what makes this person lovable, furthermore, we are doing things that demonstrate our love. Especially when things are not going so smooth, when we are in conflicts, if we let the love thoughts penetrate our physical and mental realm, we will find a space for ourselves to harmony, the inner peace, which allows us to keep thinking, saying and doing the love acts. Even when the person is no longer in love with us, we are still in control of our mental state. We did our part and be who we are, the rest is not in our control. The reality hurts, but the self-affirmation empowers us to restore the relationship or let go of it wisely and managably.
When we say “I will be there.”, we are extending our benevolence. We think we would like to help, we tell the people that we will help and we roll over our sleeves to lend a hand. It is not the time spent on help, nor the care to help that consumes us, it is the struggling about worthiness. However, when the thinking, saying and doing are in-line, we do not need to torment ourselves on whether it is worth helping, because the worthiness is out of the question when it is our decision to help in the first place. We are not the victims of betrayal, instead, we are the willingly helper.
Keeping what we think, what we say and what we do in harmony is building up our character and practicing integrity. It says that “Honesty is telling others; while integrity is telling ourselves.”. Our character is our brand. We are responsible to build it up and keep it. Walking our talk eliminates the internal struggles and questionings. The less noise, the more peaceful; the more peaceful, the happier we experience.
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