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H-Day Report – Skip the “E” and Let go


letting go egoAfter enjoying the beautiful sunshine and the gentle morning breeze, let’s indulge our mind with some kind words from the great people in our time and history:

  • “If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control – myself.” – Stephen R. Covey,
  • “Let him who would move the world, first move himself.” – Socrates
  • If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. – Napoleon Hill
  • “Midlife is the time to let go of an overdominant ego and to contemplate the deeper significance of human existence.” ― C.G. Jung
  • “The ego relies on the familiar. It is reluctant to experience the unknown, which is the very essence of life.” – Deepak Chopra,
  • “If a man thinks he is not conceited, he is very conceited indeed.” – C.S. Lewis
  • “You never really learn much from hearing yourself speak.” – George Clooney

They are all talking about one thing – EGO. Ego is the shell we have over ourselves. It is the safety net we have to protect our soft inside. We know when something or someone touches our ego when we feel threaten or challenged. In return, we hold that protection so high that it seems nothings can break it. However, the moment we do this, we are defeated from the inside out already.

If there’s one thing we can draw from the quotes, it will be to break our egos. In another word, don’t take ourselves too seriously and be open-minded. We will be able to master self-awareness when we can recognize our ego and that we understand ego is a functional part of our mind, instead of the essence of who we are. The challenge of being aware of our ego is that our mind has been programmed to believe it (ego) is us.

No one is perfect. No one is right all the time. Neither are we. So the best thing and the kindest things we can do for ourselves is to be the bigger person, skip the “e” and let go. Let go of the win-all-the-time mentality. Let go of the I-am-right attitude. Let go of the defensiveness and let go of the justifications. Simply step down the ladder and breathe. The more we practice being true to ourselves, the more we will be mindful of the defensiveness when we feel something or someone is approaching our ego.

We shouldn’t lose our identity and we must stick to our goals, but it doesn’t mean we should stay in our small world and germinate our ego. The more easily we feel our ego is hurt, the softer our inside is, because we need to fight back strong to protect that soft kernel. What if we relax and detach ourselves from holding on to “I” and switch our focus to something greater than “I”.

We know that spectators see things clearer than the insiders. What if we shut up and just listen with both our ears and heart to someone who is trying to help us and make a point. Instead of rushing into justify why they are wrong and telling them “what you are saying doesn’t help”, we say to ourselves “maybe that’s something I can try.” Conversation in a real and true relationship is never about competition, but about cooperation and compromise, for the continuance and nourishing of the relationship. When someone approaches us with sincerity and care, which we know for sure, why can’t we let them show their care and support by really listen to what they bring, let them feel appreciated and create that incentive so that they will continue the support and care that are vital to our growth.

Bottom line is we need to identify when to let go the ego. Let the communication flow and the conversation continue. The letting go doesn’t mean we are wrong, but we value the presence of that person and the relationship more than our ego. The awareness will lead us to our personal development where our desire to overcome limitations and experience love will change us. We will be able to learn to take responsibility for our thoughts, emotions and behavior.

To your success.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting

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M|M|R – When desperation hits, hold on tight!

sailingDesperation is one of the most dangerous feelings we can have.

It’s dangerous because anxious, despairing people often do things without thinking about the long-term consequences. This sense of panic can cause us to make bad decisions. It can trick us into thinking that if we don’t act now, we’ll never have another chance.

Desperation roots from the negativity in our subconscious. Like Napoleon Hill said, “Negativity is in our imagination.” It hits us only when we forget about the higher power we have; when our faith in ourselves is shaking because of the current situation; when we feel not going to the directions in our plans; when we lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel.

When we forget about the higher power we have, we will lose control of our lives. Instead of putting things together, we start to procrastinate, because we believe that the situation or the outside environment is not nourishing enough for us to move forward. Our brain stops giving us the fight signal and our body stops taking actions.

When our faith starts to shake, we doubt about our initiation. Instead of focusing on the path we decide at the beginning, we will be distracted by anything comes in handy, anything seems easier to get. We think that it is a detour from our main journey, but remember that the energy we send out will come back at us ultimately. Once we get the gratification from the detour, we will be stuck in it, forgetting the long-term rewards from hard work.

When we feel not going to the directions in our plans, we persuade ourselves to switch to something else. Before we jump into change, think about what we’ve done. Ask ourselves, the following questions:

  • Have we tried all the means to get what we want?
  • Have we followed our plans and taken all the actions to stay on track?
  • Have we kept done what we say we will do?
  • Have we simply busied ourselves by the urgent and postpone the important?

If we answer “Yes” to any of the questions, it is not time to complain that we are not going to the directions in our plan. We are not even on our plan or we haven’t even started our plan yet. We can only do something different when the original plan doesn’t work. In our case, we haven’t even started our plan yet.

When we lose sight of the light at the end of the tunnel, the desperation eats our morale and courage like no tomorrow. We become irritated by the hopelessness. We become over-sensitive to any comment. We seclude ourselves in the darkness that we created in our imagination. Nothing works. Leave me alone.

Do we like being stuck? Do we like losing control? Our human nature is 80% positivity, which is why and how our society evolves. We like the certainty, the happiness, the satisfaction and the abundance. Since desperation is only in our imagination, then by changing our thinking, we can change our state of mind.

  • Picture ourselves as the one who we want to become after the solid work.
  • Write down what we need to do to get there.
  • Start with the first thing we need to kick start our plan.
  • Do things punctually not procrastinating.
  • Practice self-discipline to follow the plan.
  • When doubt kicks in, say to ourselves why we started at the first place.

Rome is not built in a day, but destroying it only takes a second of doubt from desperation.

Follow our hearts, follow our plan and build our Rome.

To your success.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – When you feel overwhelmed….

overwhelmed-quote-2Happy Friday! It is crispy cold this morning. The low temperature seems to challenge our endurance to get up and work, our positivity to appreciate the longer and warmer-than-winter day, and our capability to switch our mind from not so good to fantastic. Believe me, we all can do it. I am not a meteorologist and I don’t normally follow the weather forecast, but I know I will get out of the door anyways.

It is such a gift that we have weekends off. It is a time to remove ourselves from our jobs for those who don’t like their jobs so much; it is a time to get together with like-minded people to reconnect for those who do love what they are doing; it is a time to do our self-reflection for those really organized and a time to relax for those really light-hearted. It is a time to do something different for any of us. It is a time for a break when we feel overwhelmed.

Being a very organized person, I have my really good days when everything was planned seamlessly, esp. at my day job; and I have my fussy days when emergencies come up at my side job, I become overwhelmed. I am so mindful when I feel I am overwhelmed. There are a few tips I can share with you that might help you when you feel overwhelmed:

  1. Based on our understanding of the difference between the important and the urgent, we put first things first. My side job is to offer coaching and training services, which I really enjoy. However, being a newbie in business, I have gone through various phases, from an empty head with no practice of doing business to an explosive mind with too many thoughts. Therefore, there are times that I realize I need to add this to my business plan, or that is missing from my business plan. At the beginning, I used to jump onto those missing components right away and do it (I am a doer, by the way, lol…). At the end of the day, I felt exhausted and drained. I felt being pulled by the business all the time. How come I was so busy but when thinking back, it seems like I haven’t done anything? I later realized that it is because I jumped too fast onto the urgency and ignore the important. For anything we do, job, career, business, fitness, or study, the most important thing is consistency. No matter how good or how terrible we are currently, as long as we make progress meaning we are better than yesterday, we are the winner, even though we can’t see the outcome right away. So my strategy now is to not jump on anything coming to me right away, but thinking about what I am doing right now. As long as it is in line with my direction, I will still do what I do, and incorporate the new thoughts or new plan or new campaign along the way. By doing this, I still feel I have the control of the business and it will get better with the new thoughts, new plans and new ideas. Be better is such a confirmation for our path.

  2. After putting first things first, we take actions to complete our list from top down, meaning crossing things off the list by completing them. Just yesterday, when I thought of the things in front me to deal with, upgrading the existed programs, designing the new programs, marketing the new programs, preparing a business trip…I sat there motionless but the thoughts of all these falling over me like a collapsing roof. The more I think about them, the more I felt out of breath. The good thing was that I was mindful and I stood up and walked away. By simply removing myself from the scene, I regained my breath and train of thoughts. Accepting the situation is the first step, meaning we accept the fact that we are the ones who must complete all these. When we stop looking for other things to blame, such as tight schedule, unfavorable situation, lack of resources and the like, we are empowering ourselves to look for solutions. This is called being proactive, in other words, being responsible. Instead of thinking about how much I have to deal with, I start to sort out what I can do right now towards completion. So I sat down again to create my presentation for the new program. As time passed, the pressure started to mitigate and I regained my cool, calm and collected. I couldn’t help telling my business partner that I was back again.

  3. Along the way to complete the projects, we must have a solid and strong support by our side; pick our environment wisely. It can be a business partner who understands us deeply, or a family member who cares about what we do, or if we are strong enough, our imaginary self. These are the parties to whom we can vent, communicate, or simply talk to without being pushed down by their pity, negativity, ignorance, such as “I told you it’s gonna be hard.” or “Don’t do it”. If we can’t have such support, it would be better to remove ourselves from the environment than settle for it. The lack of communication or ignorance from a partner is like chronological diseases. It eats up your morale and determination without you knowing. Therefore, pick our environment wisely even though it means temporary loss. I was totally convinced that there is something bigger than ourselves always.

I remember a wonderful conversation I had with a friend. Actually all our feelings, emotions, moods are created by ourselves. The negative and the positive are like the two sides of a coin. Whenever we feel one, we actually can feel the other. The only difference is which side we shed the lights on. So next time, when you feel overwhelmed, pay attention to the opposite of it, which is encouraging. Is it that the situation is encouraging you to take certain actions? Is it that the pressure is from you or your business is growing? Is it that it’s time to change your environment?

And keep yourself active, I mean in doing not thinking.

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H-Day Report – If you go….

Screen Shot 2013-10-11 at 4.55.26 PMIf you go, take with you a light heart. We all have fear for one thing or the other; we all have doubt about this or that, esp. when we will go to a new place, take a new mission, face a new challenge. The unknown can throw us off balance. However, we always know that we can get up wherever we fall; we don’t judge ourselves by the outcome, we give us a pep talk on the progress we make along the way. Even though we fall on our face, we are still facing forward. Suppose there is a magic gate to the new world, once we get pass the gate, all the fears we carry with us and the doubts we have in our heart are more or less mitigated, what you will see differently, what you will do differently and how will that make you feel? A light heart is relax, stress-free, care least about winning or losing. Only when we dump the fear, doubt, negativity and shadow in our heart, are we able to fill it with courage, bliss, power and sunshine.

If you go, take with you an organized plan. The dreams are beautiful. The vision is grand. What make the dream come true and fulfill the vision is what we actually do. Suppose you do research on all the places you plan to visit, you make appointment with all the people you plan to meet, in advance. When you wake up in the morning, you know exactly where to go and who to meet. Will that make you feel certain and confident? At the end of the day, when you come back with tentative plans, prospect’s contacts and meeting notes, will that make you feel certain and accomplished? It is the certainty of knowing what we can do and what we did that makes the different. With the certainty, we can do more and better, because we know we can and we did it.

If you go, take with you a vibrant spirit. Think about what makes you start at the beginning. Think about what you want to achieve with your trip. Think about what you promised to yourself. Don’t let the temporary separation or out of sight dampen your spirit. People are coming and going in our lives. Those who are destined to stay in our lives will stay no matter how far or how long we are gone; people who are not will leave even if being together every day. The best thing that we can give to ourselves is a vibrant spirit, sunny inside, rain or shine. A vibrant spirit empowers us to be accepting to the challenges, be persistent in difficulties and be inspired in the long run.

If you go, take with you an enduring attitude. You know you can make it, because you want to make it. The determination is so strong that the whole universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. However, in order to attract the ideal people and business, we must bend over backwards for ourselves to show that we are unbeatable. Most of the time the warriors are lonely, because no one else can have that level of endurance to keep going when injured so badly, physically or mentally. The real warriors will clean up the blood and mess alone, wrap up their wounds by themselves and stand up with more determination. Whoever stands up tall from defeat and keep fighting reaches the ultimate destiny with pride, glamorous and impact. It is then that other people realize who is the real warrior. A real warrior doesn’t need those people’s recognition, because he is a whole spirit. By himself, he can conquer all.

If you go, take with you the LOVE for yourself. You will never be lonely again. No matter it is half a mile or halfway across the world, wherever you go, you are with me. You ride, I ride. You fight, I fight.

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Overhaul Your Sales Training To Win And Retain More Customers

Replace 20th-Century Training With Modern Sales Learning Methods And Technology

overhauling-repairsResearch shown that digitally empowered buyers are a growing force in the age of the customer, putting pressure on salespeople to learn and use new competencies in order to continue winning sales. Sales enablement professionals, including marketing leaders, have come to realize their buyers’ new expectations, which focus more on a need for reps to diagnose and solve business problems than on just pitching product and solution capabilities. To gain a return on lead generation and other investments, you must upgrade your sales training methods to help sellers meet this shifting dynamic. Embracing new learning methods enabled by technology such as mobile and tablets provides organizations with more effective, continuous, and measurable development of sales rep effectiveness.

The World Bank recently predicted that the global economy will grow by 3.0% in 2015 — down from the 3.4% growth it forecast in June 2014. This lower growth projection reflects a less optimistic view of many of the world’s economies and is the kind of environment that drives governments and businesses alike to seek opportunities to cut costs. In particular, they pull back on investments that they believe do not directly contribute to revenue generation — and customer experience (CX) programs are a prime example of such an investment at many organizations. Companies needs to realize that their CX programs are the only significant lever that they have to remain competitive in the age of the customer, and how CX plays a major role in customer retention. As companies seek to cut cost during economic downturn, their focus tend to drift away from many things such as doing more marketing to stay relevant and hiring more sales people to obviously reach more customers and sell more products. Some companies fail to realize that people don’t stop spending during a bad economy.

Selling is not a department in your company, it is your company. According to a research done by  Mckinsey “ Customers no longer separate marketing from the product—it is the product. They don’t separate marketing from their in-store or online experience—it is the experience. In the era of engagement, marketing is the company” as in sales, too many organizations look at their sales department as such, a department, like it’s separate from the entire organizations. Top down leaders know this to be true, and know that sales is the entire company and not a department, therefore, during economic hardship, these companies don’t just survive, they thrive.

Top down leaders lead the way in their company, they look at them self to save the company; they look at them self to increase sales in the organization. A bottom up leader has the opposite views, they look at the departments, esp sales, to save them. When I started in sales in 1988, there was an economic crisis; I was too young to notice it then. However, the CEO of the company would go on sales calls with the reps from time to time and this was the best time to do it. I remembered one sales call in particular he was on with me, the customer didn’t want to buy because of the bad economy, and the customer was trying to convince us that the economy was too bad and no one is spending money. To make a long story short, my boss was wearing a diamond embezzled Rolex watch and a very expensive gold bracelet at the time. The customer noticed it and made the comment that he must be doing good to be able to afford that. The CEO replied, absolutely! We’re experiencing record breaking sales and you could too by purchasing our products. Needless to say the deal was closed. I learned three major lessons that day, (1st) our perception and attitude controls everything, (2) selling is the entire organization and not a department (3) leadership is not about being the boss.

There’s a company in Cleveland Ohio call The Kirby Company. It’s a company that’s been around since 1914, over one hundred years old. They’ve seen their fair share of economic disasters over the years, yet they survived and thrive through them. I was at their annual meeting in 2009 and the CEO was talking about the current economic conditions facing America and the rest of the world, what strike me more than anything else is, he was talking about it as if their company (Kirby Company) was not a part of this very real economic destruction and as if they were on a different planet. Little did I know they were. This was not their first economic charade and it won’t be the last. They have lots of experience with bad economy and have devised one of the most successful plans to thrive through them. With every bad economic downturn they realize increase in sales; in fact it has become the norm to have record breaking sales during a bad economy. While other companies are shaking in their boots and cutting back on spending and laying off people, they do the opposite. They actually look forward to a bad economy, they hire more people during economic downturns, and because it gives them the opportunity to have a better selection of sales people, they now can chose some top notch sales reps from the organizations who’s laying them off. It’s a very smart move and a simple formula, they not only get high quality sales rep, they get loyalty from them as well and they get to reach more customers which in turn equals more sales. I am surprised more companies don’t employ these strategies.

They’ve been doing this successfully now for almost a hundred years. Back in the thirties in the great depression, many companies fall, the Kirby Company had to reinvent them self to not only stay in business but to be profitable. They actually do the opposite of what regular organizations do. There are a lot of companies started or have survived through economic depression, they’re not the only one, and we could learn a few lessons from them, companies such as GE, Disney, HP and Microsoft. They were all start-ups during steep declines in the U.S. economy. GE started during the panic of 1873, Disney started during the recession of 1923-24, HP began during the Great Depression, and Bill Gates and Paul Allen founded Microsoft during the recession of 1975. These are clear indications and demonstrations of the importance of organization attitude and how top down leadership can make a big impact in their company.

Don’t wait for things to go bad to start revamping, overhaul your sales training and your organization attitude today, and experience exponential growth in any economic climate.

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M|M|C Report – What can we learn from a child?

by Havasu Christian Church

by Havasu Christian Church

Every week I have a lounge where people can come and relax and participate in interesting topics that stretches the mind. The topics ranges from easy ways to learning a new language to how to be better at selling, business development, leadership, management and teambuilding…Yesterday was on language.

We ran a test on a pilot program we’re developing using children’s books to teach adult a new language. The idea is that we can learn as easy as a child. Kids somehow absorb things easier than adults and all the studies show that they’re like a sponge when it comes to learning. So, we thought to apply the rules to adult and see where it leads. It was truly amazing and spectacular. We developed the first part of the program and introduced it yesterday to a group of 8, including to children, because one of the parent didn’t have a baby sitter.

It was a very exciting and entertaining Sunday morning. The children loved the book, that’s expected, but the adults were more excited than the kids and were completely immersed into the whole thing without distraction. How amazing is that? At first we thought they might be thinking that this is a waste of their time and we must be out of our mind to want them to learn like children, but that wasn’t the case, everyone was fully engaged from the start.

We can learn a lot from everything and anyone, but we have to pay attention. We also need to be creative in our ideas and be bold enough to try them regardless of what we think the outcome might be or what people might think and say. Lots of us have great ideas that would change a community, a city and sometimes the world, but we put it in the freezer on ice and it never comes to fruition because we never take action to find out the outcome. If we can be bold for just one moment and make that first step towards whatever we want to do, changing our job, starting a business, asking for that raise or applying for the promotion when it comes up, we might surprise ourselves with the results…

What can we learn from a child?

Fearless of trying; Creative in action; Persistent in doing; Care least for outside judgment. When we awake the child in us, she/he will lead us to the free land of creativity and imagination.

Happy Learning!

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest! – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – It’s never my way or the highway.

emotional-empathy-cartoonHappy Friday! It is beautiful today and it is supposed to be a sunny weekend as well. I just checked the Weather Network. These are the thing to feel happy about, aren’t they?

What makes my day a happy day is the conversation I had with my daughter this morning. I have limited time on my cell phone, but I spent almost 30 minutes on the phone with her. The whole conversation brought more clarity and understanding of the things that I preach.

There was a math contest in my daughter’s after school program today. I totally forgot about it and only realized that this morning after I left the house. So I called home and told my daughter that she would go to the math contest. Of course, she was so reluctant to go. She told me she didn’t know all the questions; what if she couldn’t finish the contest; why she had to go when she didn’t want to go. On the other side of the line, I was trying to get her in the contest. I said that she was good at math but she didn’t realized. I told her she didn’t have to finish all the questions if she didn’t know how to. I encouraged her that she would do well because she always finished her homework fast. We kept talking back and forth, back and forth. She started to cry and I started to get impatient. Finally, at my wit’s end, I said, “Do you want me to have a happy day?” “You don’t need me to have a happy day. No matter I go to the contest or not, you can always have a happy day, if you want to. You said that.” That was a big blow on my head. My first reaction was to raise my voice, but on second thought I must admit what she said was so true, and on third thought, I started to feel better that she remembered what I told her how to be happy. So I took a deep breath and said, “You are right. Now I am going to have a happy day, do you know why? I feel happy because you are growing. You don’t have to go to the contest this time, how about next time?” “I think I will go. I would like you to help me prepare and I will feel more confident to go.” I was almost in tears hearing that she is coming up with her resolutions for similar situations. We ended the conversation happily on both ends.

The most important aspect that I learned from this conversation was that I had my agenda when I talked with my daughter, which was to get her into the contest. Subconsciously I told myself if I couldn’t I lost the battle. Therefore, when I followed my agenda, I started to push the conversation to my direction, instead of listening to her, I imposed my understanding of the so-called benefits on her. Even if I was listening, all I heard was regarded as her excuses of not going, instead of showing empathy with her that she wasn’t fully prepared, or maybe she was not confident enough to take this one right now. What I felt happy about was that I did practice being patient, which led me to switch my thinking and start to empathize her. The patience and empathy alleviate my pressure on her, giving her the space to make her voice heard, and mitigate my pressure on myself that I can’t lose my authority as a parent.

Maybe negotiation is not about winning, but to find a better way for all parties. It is like Maslow said, “If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.” It’s never my way or the highway. The true resolution comes from WIN-WIN. The first step to WIN-WIN is to listen without agenda, meaning leaving out the judgment, the perception and the must-win mindset.

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Standers-by see more than gamesters.

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lost – by Janek-Sedlar

You might have heard about a story like this:

In the middle of the night, a patrolling policeman noticed a man looking for something under the lamppost on the street, so he went over to check. He asked the man, “Excuse me, Sir, what are you looking for?” The man said, “I am looking for the key to my car.” “Oh, was it lost somewhere here?”, the policeman asked. The man answered, “No. I think it probably was lost somewhere beside my car”, pointing to a car in the dark some distance away. “Well, then why don’t you look for it around your car?”, asked the policeman “Well, because it is brighter here.”

What’s wrong with this person? We all know that he is not gonna find his key, because it was not lost where he was looking. Can’t he see that? Probably not, because he has been too busy looking to notice where to look. How come we get it the moment we hear the conversation, because we are not in it. Isn’t it a proof of the saying, “The spectator sees more of the game.”?

You might have another experience. When the leaves turn red, you would drive all the way to national parks to enjoy the brightest color in nature, 50+ shades of red. The scene is magnificent when you look at it from afar. However, when you get to the foot of the mountain, you are kind of losing the shocking sensation. How come?

Because you are in the mountain and you can only see what’s in front of you. You lose the sight of the whole picture.

There are time after time in our lives that we lose sight of the picture. We are too involved in what we are doing. We are too busy doing for doing’s sake. We either get frustrated by the repetitive setbacks, or get confused by the unattainable paths.

Do you want to get unstuck from something that you are doing right now?

Are you trying different approaches to get unstuck?

Suppose there’s a person who is able to guide you out of the repetitive circle and lead you to a path that you can see progress, would you like to get such help?

Such help comes from professionals like coaches or consultants. They are trained professionals to help people realize their potentials and live a fuller life. They are professional spectators that see what you don’t see or are reluctant to see; they are there to help you turn the impossibles to possibilities.

If we always do what we’ve always done, we will always get what we’ve always got. Let the spectators help you break the smog in front of you and let the sun shine in.

To your success.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting

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W|D|R – All about DECISION

You-can-measure-a-mans-character-by-the-choices-he-makes-under-pressureDo you ever find yourself in situations that suppose to be motivating and inspiring, but instead you feel like shit?

Today was one of those days for me. I went to see a guy regarding some business and it was suppose to be exciting, which was. Looking at what he does and how much he has achieved makes me think of the word Decision…It all started in 1998, but took root in 2001 when he decided to team up with a partner. He said they were rocking and business was booming. In 2006 they had to part company because his partner got greedy. He said it was a tough decision because his partner was good and he wasn’t sure if he could do it on his own, but something needed to be done. In the end the decision was made to part Company. Now looking back, he said, it was a great decision. He said, “my business doubled every year since and built a solid business all by making a few good decisions along the way.”

Sometimes making a decision is a daunting task. We never know of the affect these decisions will have on our lives, and we have no idea how things will turn out until after; sometimes years later is when we see the effects. That’s when we realize it was a good or bad decision. Today was one of those days for me. It shed light on all my bad decisions and showed me what consistent good decision looks like and how each one adds up to one amazing ride through this thing call life.

They said men go through a mid-life crisis at my age. I thought I already went through it, but I’m realizing that I am still going through it. I have done a lot of reflecting and a lot of future planning. I’m realizing why they call it a crisis. We’re in confusion, facing a lot of instability and have to think hard on decisions to make sure we get it right. Our decisions add up without us realizing. We don’t pay attention to the results of every decision we make, it’s only when something drastic happened from our decisions that we take note, otherwise it’s a lost mystery until we’re confronted by something that shed a light on how bad our decisions had been throughout our life.

Taking count and having accountability is so important when making a decision. When we’re aware that we are responsible for whatever decision we have made or are making, we don’t need to spend our time and energy in looking for others to blame when the outcome is not what we want, instead, we will focus our energy to take the right actions toward the right direction.

“Accountability separates the wishers in life from the action-takers that care enough about their future to account for their daily actions.”  – John Di Lemme


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M|M|C Report – Spring


The beautiful spring came; and when Nature resumes her loveliness, the human soul is apt to revive also.

—Harriet Ann Jacobs


April hath put a spirit of youth in everything.

—William Shakespeare


An optimist is the human personification of spring.

—Susan J. Bissonette


Expect to have hope rekindled. Expect your prayers to be answered in wondrous ways. The dry seasons in life do not last. The spring rains will come again.

—Sarah Ban Breathnach


It’s spring fever. That is what the name of it is. And when you’ve got it, you want —oh, you don’t quite know what it is you do want, but it just fairly makes your heart ache, you want it so!

—Mark Twain


Science has never drummed up quite as effective a tranquilizing agent as a sunny spring day.

—W. Earl Hall


Now you know what I am going to talk about. Yes. Spring.

There are so many poems, articles for spring. Spring represents new, fresh, budding, hope, delicate, calm, growth, happiness, brightness, rejuvenation, you name it. Spring brings us energy, hope, dreams. It is the season for growing. Whenever I think of spring, I always see the picture of a tender bud growing from the soil with a little water drop on the tip. It is fresh green, vibrant and full of internal strength. I am always touched by the explosion of life. Whenever there is life, there’s creation. whenever there’s creation, there’s hope. Whenever there’s hope, there’s life. I love the upward spinning of life-creation-hope. As long as we have a vibrant heart, as long as we hold our head high, as long as we keep moving forward, we can always welcome the spring of our own.

What do you want your spring to be like? Like it says, no matter how long the winter is, spring is sure to come. Clean the dust in our mind, get rid of the clutter in our attitude. The spring breeze will help us calm and face our lives courageously.

Happy Spring Day!

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