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WDR|weekend Development Report| What Are You Manifesting?

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Manifesting and Magnetizing:

Manifest-PicWhat is it you’re manifesting in your life? Most people ask for peace and happiness but are manifesting misery, constant negativity and destruction, as if there life cannot go on without chaos. Not everyone wants to be rich, but everyone wants a comfortable lifestyle that is fill with peace, happiness and good health. In our chaotic world it seems as if these simple things that should be a given, is quite a difficult feat to achieve.

Our stress levels are at the highest it’s ever been in human history, disease is more rampant than it’s ever been and mutating out of control every year, poverty is still at an all time high and money has become the only God we know. We’re selling our souls and everyone else’s for the almighty dollar. Take some time and find a quiet corner, then ask yourself, where do you find peace? Are you taking care of your health? Do you like misery and chaos? When is the last time you really laugh out loud? When is the last time you really have some fun with yourself, your boyfriend-husband, your kids? What is stopping you from achieving your desired level of comfort and happiness? How can you live a life without chaos and worry?

Old is not so old at all-It’s where everything is:

I remembered when i was a young lad growing up in the Islands. We didn’t have much money, as a matter of fact, money was not important, we’re a family, fun first nation. Everything was revolve around having a good time and enjoying life. What has change? And why did we? We left the sanctity of our home and went in search of gold, not realizing we already have the largest goldmine in our backyard. By the time we realized, it was too late. We already spread our wings and laid foundations in a new land, adjusting and shifting to this way of life and succumb to the environment and it’s mindset; making it difficult to go back to our original simple lifestyle.

Can we do better? yes we can!..We can start slowing down, pause and look at our life. Look at the people in our life and who we  surround our-self with. Ask ourselves the tough questions like, is this what I want for my life? What makes me comfortable and happy? What separates me from everyone else around me?  Is this the life i want for me and my family? (If you have one) Are there better? What can I do to make the changes I want for a better lifestyle? Do I want a Healthier, stress free environment and a breath easy lifestyle?

Once you make the decision of what you want and how you want to live, it will be very easy to manifest it in your life. The hard part is to get pass the threshold and crossing over from one mindset to the other, but once you do, everything flows.

Paulo Cohelo wrote in his book the Alchemist. “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it”

Don’t chase money, find peace, comfort and happiness in your life and all your wants and desires will come your way. Because a relaxed and happy mind is a creative and productive mind. Lincoln Holnes

Activate the H.A.N.H in you and you’ll find that all you’re looking for will be magnetize to you in abundance.

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H-Day Champs|What is your worry?

Darkness: 

Light_hope__light_on_darknessThe dark comes over us daily. It seems it’s the basis of life that’s called living. Without it, none of us would be alive. However, because of that darkness, most of us don’t live; we spend our precious time worrying, and most of our worries involve things that don’t even matter. It seems we’re programmed over the years to carry around laser focus on the UN-important, expelling our precious energy on the meaningless and forgetting the meaningful. Pause for a moment and think, what is meaningful to you?

My good friend Patrick said to me once, everyone must die, but not everyone lives.

Recently I was at a seminar and the speaker said, some people live 80 years one time.  She explained that the average life span today is around 80 years, and some people take the one bad year they had and repeat it 80 times.

It’s clouds us, no escaping:

That’s true for many people and in many ways it becomes traditional. It gets passed on to the next generation, and that cycle of darkness seems to stay with some of us forever. But, when it rains it pours on both sides of the spectrum (the good side and the bad side) and we need to remember that. Darkness is inevitable. It clouds us everyday. It’s true that some of us get it more than others, but remember, darkness is normal and it always follows by light, like night and day. The darkness of the night does not linger for the full twenty-four hours. It splits. It only gets twelve and the other twelve is light. So, the next time you find yourself in the dark, remember, the light draws near.

  • darkness-lightWe find darkness on our way to work in traffic, frustrated, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness on the job, with our colleagues, our boss and our wage, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness at home with the children, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness in our relationships, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness with our financials, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness with our health, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness with love, but the light draws near.
  • We find darkness in life, but remember it’s normal because the light draws near.
  • Anywhere there’s darkness, remember, the light draws near.

Hanh along with you leading into the light….Activate the H.A.N.H in you

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HAPPY MONDAY MMC’S!|WHAT ARE YOU FEARFUL OF?

Our deepest fear is we’re powerful beyond measure.

If that’s true, why are we so afraid? What are we so fearful of?

Fear1-ooI was at my buddy’s house over the weekend and his one year old daughter is amazing; she’s so beautiful and so curious. She has no idea what fear is and what it means.

She would crawl under the coffee table and touch my toes as if she wanted to tickle me, then she would back up and laugh, because I pretended she was tickling me. I don’t know if she understands what she was doing, but she was enjoying. The amazing thing is she didn’t care about the danger of hitting her head on the table, but all the adults were so vigilant (including me) in making sure she was safe. She went on for another 20 minutes before moving on to some other dangerous (in our head) fun things. To her, it was all about a good time; to us, it was about protection and fear of her getting hurt.

At the end of the day, she never hurt herself once and she was running all over the place doing all kinds of fun, exciting and to us, crazy stuff.

When do we start developing FEAR? And do we realize that this FEAR holds us back from succeeding and truly live a full life? I don’t believe anyone truly know the answer, but some research shows that it starts at around 2 ½ years old and others said we’re born with it, hence, the Fight or Flight theory. An inborn response for coping with danger, when we sense it we stay and fight or run away. That explains some of the reasons why we feel fear, but not the danger of a baby fallen off a chair or down the stairs, the baby don’t see the danger otherwise they wouldn’t be doing it, but we do, why?

The bottom-line, fear awareness is injected into our system after a certain age and as our brain develops, fear develops alongside it as well. The majority of us who does not take chances, always on the side of caution and see the fear in everything, really are stopping ourselves from achieving our true potentials in life. It hinders our progression and caps our growth. This is the reason some of us don’t get the job, because we go into the interviews fearing failure. We don’t get the promotion, because we don’t go for it. We don’t ask for the raise that we know we fully deserve. We don’t make investments because we think we might lose it and on and on. When in truth, “we have nothing to fear but fear itself” Franklin Roosevelt.

Stop fearing and start living. Become a baby in your mind again, see your fears and do it anyway, start having as many happy moments as possible, laugh a lot and seek to have as much fun as you possibly can. We all will be extremely lucky if we get 80 years out of this thing call life. So please, start living today.

Our deepest fears, is we’re powerful beyond measure.

Embracing fear along the road to success and activating the H.A.N..H in you

Hanh Consulting…www,hanhconsulting.com

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The Neuroscience of Happiness

The Neuroscience of Happiness.

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W|D|R – Celebration of Life

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I went to Celebration of Life for my best friend’s Dad, who passed away at the age of 90. It was such a celebration of life, for a fulfilled life, a happy life and an impactful life.

Family and friends, from the first generation in their eighties to the third generation at the age of 9, were together to memorize such a spirit. Of course there were tears from time to time when family and friends told their stories and memories about the Dad, but all in all, it all came to one line that he was such happy, positive person. He used his humour, his laughs and his actions to impact every single soul in his life. His positivity in difficulties, his commitment to his family, his diligence at work and his caring for strangers, are all what are left with the loved ones.

When I sat there listening to those stories, I couldn’t help stopping my tears. The very scene also reminded me of the powerful question that Stephen Covey once asked in his powerful masterpiece, something like “What do you want people to say about you in your funeral?” We might not realize when we are alive that what we do, what we say, how we interact every day are actually our prints in our lives, our prints we left with other people around. A little grudge may turn someone down from our aura, even if we have so many influence to pass on; while a little good deed may turn someone’s life right side up, even if we didn’t do it on purpose. The bottom line is that we should always have the faith that we are happy souls to be born and we have the control of our happiness.

What throws us off-board is our doubt about our faith. However, what Bishop T.D. Jakes put down in his book “Maximize the Moment” provides us with a remedy to throw away our doubt. He wrote:

“…Sometimes faith is perfected more when thing do not change than when they do. You do not need hope for what you can see, or faith for what you have attained. You need faith when no answer comes. You need faith when life makes no sense. You need faith when you can’t explain why the baby dies, why the job falls through, why the marriage isn’t working, why the wicked prosper, the good die, the righteous suffer, and the kind receive no comfort.

Faith is not always an instrument of change. sometimes it is a means of survival.

Experience the full range of emotions that come from the strength to strain and then give in to the realities while challenging the possibilities. Indulge ourselves in those rare moments of laughter that come even in the face of death or danger. being able to find the comic even amongst the ruins of tragedy also stretches the limitations of our expectations. it requires us to step outside of the present pain and adjust focus. This in itself is a healing balm….”

“All the emotions are put in us for us to feel. Don’t deny them, feel them all. But feel the ones more often that make you happy and give you the most pleasure. – Lincoln Holnes”

To your success!

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest! – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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H-HDay|Do you use the power of choice to your advantage?|

The Power Of Choice:

Warren Buffet said “the difference between successful people and really successful people, is successful people always say no”          I don’t know how much this is relevant to choice, but no i guess, is also a choice.

choice-1We have it but most of us rarely use it to our advantage. I don’t think most of us have a clear understanding of its power and the success we can achieve from CHOICE. Choosing to do or to not do something is a choice we all make at times and the outcome is not always what we want. Making a choice is easy but it’s not easy to make a good decision. The choices we make we don’t know where it’s going to lead us, and some of us have a tough time making good choices. Mathew McConaughey said he wanted to be a football player but, a lot of his friends told him he should be an actor, he said he listened, called his father and told him he’s changing major and that he wanted to go to film school, his dad supported his decision and as they say, the rest is history. The outcome probably would have been completely different if he was stubborn and continued on his path to being a football player. I once read that the greatest power that has bestowed onto mankind is the power of CHOICE. I have to agree.

The right choice?

According to the laws in the US and Canada, your child is responsible for themselves after the age of 18. They are now old enough to make their own decisions, do what they want, when they want and however they want; and they do just that. Even though it’s a power to have choices, and we all know the difference between rights and wrong, making the right choice-decision sometimes is extremely difficult, because no one can really see the outcome. Therefore, if we start out by making bad choices, after a few of those it’s more than likely we’ll run into a barrage of bad choices, kind of like developing bad habits around choices. That could lead to a tougher life later on, making it harder to get ahead. Although, research has shown that adolescent and adults carry the same capabilities in making decisions, adolescents are more likely to make some bad choices because of emotional stimuli and peer pressure, while adults have more control when confronted with the same choices.

Choices-2Either way, it’s difficult to get right it sometimes at any age. And, learning how to make the right decisions that impacts our life is vital for our success. The choices we make determine who and what we become, and whether we achieve our goals, fulfill our dreams and live a happy and fruitful life. Therefore, I say to the teenagers, some of the best choices we can make is, to respect and listen to our parents, because they usually want the best for us, search for your talent and develop it, because it’s easier to be more of who you are and finally choose people that elevates you, because they’ll help you to propel ahead faster.

Research shows that imagery and mental scenario rehearsal can play a vital role in decision-making, and some of us are rush to decisions because of pre-gain emotional high (the outcome we see in our mind) But, research also suggest that visualization can play an important role in decision-making if use correctly, it can be a powerful tool that can lead to a whole host of great decisions. Try this technique next time before making a decision, you might like the outcome.

Making the choice to succeed

Activate the H.A.N.H in you..#Activate

Hanh Consulting

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MMC|Do you ever unplug?|

Are you so connected and yet so very disconnected?

digital picWhat is your relationship with your digital device? Is it the best relationship you have? Is it more important than your spouse, your children, your friends? How about your life?

I was watching a documentary last night on how digitized we’ve become and the impact it has on our lives. Though, it has its benefits, it also comes with detriments that most of us are not aware of. The creation of this digitized was to make life easier, and it has for some of us, and some of us has amassed a tremendous amount of wealth from it as well. However, most of us will never gain anything from it, nothing monetary that is. Somehow we still believe in tweeting, texting, facebooking, instagraming etc., just showcasing all of our activities. We’re so plugged in and we’re getting run over in the streets.

We’re so eager for fame that we’d go to any lengths to showcase who and what we are, where we are and what we’re doing every moment of the day without even blinking an eye. We’re now digitized unconsciously and cannot deny that we’re in and are fully immersed. It’s not a revolution anymore it’s here and it’s here to stay. We’re now more consumed with more digital devices than we really need. We’re confronted with it everywhere without any escape and no time to get away from it for even a second. It’s at work in our cars and at home, something we’ve clearly become accustomed to in just a few short years and some of our best relationship is with our digital devices, sad to say but true.

Some people have a better relationship with their cell phone, Ipad, lap top etc. than they have with their family and friends. Husbands and wives now might need to tweet or text each other just to have a conversation, and to talk to their children they definitely need to send them a text, facebook, instagram and on and on and on. It’s completely out of control; no one talks to each other anymore, especially the kids.

We’re so connected, yet so disconnected, what has happened to human interaction through the art of communication and actually making sounds with our mouth? I feel sorry for our children because their communication and listening skills are not being developed. I’m certain some of us who wasn’t born in a computer or with a global mindset are feeling it from our children and our jobs; our work lags and we’re more stressed out than ever.

This definitely impacting our lives negatively, the job market today is solely reliant on digital. It’s now close to impossible to contact an employer directly. It’s even more difficult to gain employment if you know nothing about it. We lost time on the job tweeting and texting, relationships with colleagues drags because everything is email. Our relationships with our children slowly slip away because they’re too busy being digitized…Sad? Disappointed? Desperate?  Devastated?

NO.

We know that all these are learned, which means we can unlearn them as well, as long as we are aware that something is missing from our lives. While for those who haven’t realized the missing puzzles, let them be and they will notice the difference, but let’s make the change from ourselves. Unplug yourself from the digital network. Don’t worry about missing the important events in the community, because if it’s important, somebody will tell you about that; don’t worry about missing an important call, because if it’s important, the person will call back; don’t worry about missing certain gatherings among your social network, because once you learn how to and actually increase your value, you will become the magnet that people will come to you.

Bottom line, check your current life, imagine what you want from your life, keep an end in mind, if you have everything in your life, good job; if not, learn to unplug and see what will happen. You will revisit the beautiful sunset, rehear the giggling water, reconnect with what’s important for you, rekindle the life of more relaxation, more encouragement, and more genuine individuals.

To your success.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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WDR|Work Life Balance? By Chris Brogan|

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Article by Chris Brogan

I just finished watching a documentary on Paul Levesque, better known as Triple H, a professional wrestler, now helping shape the WWE and sports entertainment. In it, the recurring theme was that Paul had a very strong work ethic, that he pushed harder, worked harder, did more than those around him. His intense level of dedication to his work brought him the success that he earned throughout his career.

Lots of people argue that it’s difficult to reach those levels and still have a life or a family. Anyone who works hard is often cautioned that it will ruin your relationship, that you’ll never get to see your kids, that you can’t have a thriving career and still have a life worth living.

Is There Such a Thing as Work Life Balance?

I think the question is part of the problem. I don’t think balance is the goal. I think we seek to thrive. Grant Cardone says that he wants excess in both quadrants: work and home life. Why settle for a balance where you can seek really thriving levels of success with both? And I agree.

But it’s not easy.

Chris does have a point and I agree that there might not be such a thing as work life balance, because it’s not one size fits all. Each person needs to decide what is important for them and how much they are willing to do in each area of importance. To have a happy home it needs peace and not constant chaos; everyone cannot be running like a chicken without a head. And to have a happy boss or to be happy and productive on the job also requires a lot. Stress is known as the trigger to disaster, and both can be stressful, even the demands of meeting friends for social events can be stressful at times.

So, what is cure and what is the magic to create balance? I think each person needs to create their own system, a system that includes flexibility and the kind that works for everyone they deem important. I believe socializing and exercise need to be a part of the system, because those two are important to tackle stress. Create your system and don’t look for balance. We all hear and use the saying, “life is short” So I believe everyone should work hard, love hard, socialize hard and play hard. Why place limits and stress on ourselves. Live Happily.

To Your Success

Activate The H.A.N.H In You

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HAPPY H-DAY|HOW MOTIVATED ARE YOU?

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Motiv-act-1Olimpia Zagnoli

THERE are two kinds of motive for engaging in any activity: internal and instrumental. If a scientist conducts research because she wants to discover important facts about the world, that’s an internal motive, since discovering facts is inherently related to the activity of research. If she conducts research because she wants to achieve scholarly renown, that’s an instrumental motive, since the relation between fame and research is not so inherent. Often, people have both internal and instrumental motives for doing what they do.

What mix of motives — internal or instrumental or both — is most conducive to success? You might suppose that a scientist motivated by a desire to discover facts and by a desire to achieve renown will do better work than a scientist motivated by just one of those desires. Surely two motives are better than one. But as we and our colleagues argue in a paper newly published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, instrumental motives are not always an asset and can actually be counterproductive to success.

We analyzed data drawn from 11,320 cadets in nine entering classes at the United States Military Academy at West Point, all of whom rated how much each of a set of motives influenced their decision to attend the academy. The motives included things like a desire to get a good job later in life (an instrumental motive) and a desire to be trained as a leader in the United States Army (an internal motive).

How did the cadets fare, years later? And how did their progress relate to their original motives for attending West Point?

We found, unsurprisingly, that the stronger their internal reasons were to attend West Point, the more likely cadets were to graduate and become commissioned officers. Also unsurprisingly, cadets with internal motives did better in the military (as evidenced by early promotion recommendations) than did those without internal motives and were also more likely to stay in the military after their five years of mandatory service — unless (and this is the surprising part) they also had strong instrumental motives.

Remarkably, cadets with strong internal and strong instrumental motives for attending West Point performed worse on every measure than did those with strong internal motives but weak instrumental ones. They were less likely to graduate, less outstanding as military officers and less committed to staying in the military.

The implications of this finding are significant. Whenever a person performs a task well, there are typically both internal and instrumental consequences. A conscientious student learns (internal) and gets good grades (instrumental). A skilled doctor cures patients (internal) and makes a good living (instrumental). But just because activities can have both internal and instrumental consequences does not mean that the people who thrive in these activities have both internal and instrumental motives.

Our study suggests that efforts should be made to structure activities so that instrumental consequences do not become motives. Helping people focus on the meaning and impact of their work, rather than on, say, the financial returns it will bring, may be the best way to improve not only the quality of their work but also — counterintuitive though it may seem — their financial success.

There is a temptation among educators and instructors to use whatever motivational tools are available to recruit participants or improve performance. If the desire for military excellence and service to country fails to attract all the recruits that the Army needs, then perhaps appeals to “money for college,” “career training” or “seeing the world” will do the job. While this strategy may lure more recruits, it may also yield worse soldiers. Similarly, for students uninterested in learning, financial incentives for good attendance or pizza parties for high performance may prompt them to participate, but it may result in less well-educated students.

The same goes for motivating teachers themselves. We wring our hands when they “teach to the test” because we fear that it detracts from actual educating. It is possible that teachers do this because of an over reliance on accountability that transforms the instrumental consequences of good teaching (things like salary bonuses) into instrumental motives. Accountability is important, but structured crudely, it can create the very behavior (such as poor teaching) that it is designed to prevent.

Rendering an activity more attractive by emphasizing both internal and instrumental motives to engage in it is completely understandable, but it may have the unintended effect of weakening the internal motives so essential to success.

Amy Wrzesniewski is an associate professor of organizational behavior at the Yale School of Management. Barry Schwartz is a professor of psychology at Swarthmore College.

To Your Success

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Response-ability

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We know that being proactive is the fundamental habit of an effective person. Being proactive means to take actions and be responsible for the actions. Responsible – responsibility – response-ability. No matter what happens, if we have the ability to response constructively, we can change lives. In order to create that ability , we must understand what is important to us, so that the actions we take will lead us to the direction we want, including at work, at home, in relationship and you name it.

I went to my girl friend’s home for Thanksgiving. She told me she was so frustrated with his grown-up son. Her son refused to come to his grandfather’s celebration of life, simply because he doesn’t want to talk to one of his aunts who will be there. My girl friend told me, “What frustrated me the most is that he knows how important my dad was to me, but he simply couldn’t be there just for me, his mother, who he said he loves? I told him he was so selfish and I hung up the phone.” I felt for her and couldn’t understand how come people can get so ignorant sometimes.

There is a story about a father. The father doesn’t like football at all. However, his son is a big fan of football. There was one season, he bought a season’s tickets for two and he went to all the major games with his son. For sure, that cost him quite a bit. After the season, he was quite a frequent visitor to the games. When his friends asked him if he liked football. His answer is “No. I still don’t like it; but I like my son that much.”

It is a very good demonstration of the power of the saying: what is important to that person is as important as that person is to you. Once we can really apply this expression in our lives, we can say we really start to understand other people. It’s our responsibility to truly understand without judgment, perception and correction. In the meantime, we will find peace.

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