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M|M|C Report – Focus 2.0

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paradigm shiftFocus 2.0

Although I’m a genius at multi-tasking and it always seems as if I’m doing a lot, not much gets done and I’m always tired at the end of the day. People who know me always ask why I am so busy? I never know what to say. My answer is always the same, I have a lot to do and a lot going on, what? I now realized it’s because I’m not getting anything done, which is why there’s so much going on. Nothing is being finalized and concrete. I half ass a project then leave it on weak legs and move on to the next. Before long I need to come back to it because it’s no good or it’s falling apart. I now know first hand that multi-tasking is building on weak foundations, and some of us, like myself, have built skyscrapers on quick sand.

The lab wheel:

I am so busy all the time and the damn time passes by so quickly. I always thought where did the time go why is it in so much God damn hurry and where the hell is it in a hurry going. I digress, my apologies. I always take some time to look at what I have accomplished at the end of each day. I am always frustrated because it’s never seem like I’ve done much. I feel like a test lab mouse on a wheel running as fast as I can but not moving, and at the end I’m drained. How can this happen and what’s the root cause of such a nowhere cycle? I feel like screaming out loud: what the hell is this and how I can now turn this 30-year-old habit around? Yes, it’s been with me that long. That’s how my skyscrapers got built. I’ve been a wheel spinner for thirty damn years now and I’m tired of it, very tired. I wanted to ask if I’m the only one that feels stuck in this gutter, trying to be the genius of everything and now finding out that your multi machine only leads you to be experiencing the wheel of nowhere. The layman on this is “vicious cycle” for you newbie’s.

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I needed to fix this lab mouse bullshit, so I decided to do some research. I went to my library (google) and pulled up a ton load of info on the topic. It seems everyone is a damn genius on this crap, or my librarian googlers are lying to me. Anyways, I came across someone who stands out to me, Sander A. Flaum. I quoted him in my first piece on singular and multi focus people and I am going to do it again because he made sense to me. According to Sander: Multitasking gained momentum in the early 1900s when academics conducted time-motion studies of manual laborers. The studies showed that doing more than one thing at a time boosted productivity and reduced fatigue. Today their theory is costing us big time, as the angst-driven compulsion to do two or ten things at once has entered what economists might call the “diminishing law of return” phase.

The New York Times recently reported that business-research firm Basex estimates the American economy loses $650 billion dollars a year to the cost of interruptions and recovery time in the workplace. I guess i’m not the only one building skyscrapers on quick sand. I don’t feel as lonely anymore.

The Solution or you may call it The Winning Effect: which some of us need to learn.

A winning example of the benefit of singular focus is Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps. Phelps became an Olympic swimming legend, winning an unprecedented eight gold medals at the 2008 Beijing Games. His focus for each event was perfectly fixed on improving his time and outmanoeuvring the competition. It’s a simple strategy, but not easy to do. Focus on one thing and execute it exquisitely. That’s the Phelps’ way and that’s also the proven way to guarantee performance and maintain your leadership position.

So, taking a cue from Phelps, where should you place your unbridled focus today? What’s on your to-do list right now? You have an opportunity to reach for a new personal best as of today. Will you go for it? I know I will. Even though it’s a tough habit to break, you must go for it if you want to achieve some level of success. Studies are also showing that multi-tasking is not only costing companies to lose money, it’s also causing major stress to employees in the work place and they’re taking it home to their families. Studies are also showing that it leads to low self-esteem, low confidence and depression, because of the lack of results in multi-tasking. Employers are pressuring employees to do more and more each day but getting less result, and people need to see results from their efforts to feel good and proud about what they’re doing.

I will go deeper in this in the coming weeks, on what you can do to help break the lab wheel habit and be more productive, see more results and feel some satisfaction from your hard work.

Stay tuned.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. – Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting – Move People.

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W|D|R – Never half ass 2 things; whole ass 1!

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Confusion:

We hear it all the time that in order to be effective, we need to focus on one thing at a time. I often ask, how can we focus on one thing in such a chaotic world? I am a multi-tasker. I get bored doing only one thing at a time and I lose interests quickly, so I need to have a lot going on to feel comfortable and to feel like I’m doing something. I read one time that there are two kinds of people. The first is “Focus driven”. They need to focus on one thing and one thing only or nothing gets done. I’m talking about someone who cannot chew gum and walk at the same time. The next is the “Multi-Focus” person. These kind of people think they can do it all and at once. I’m talking about someone who can drive a car, talk on the phone, drinking a coffee and smoking a cigarette all at the same time and feel comfortable doing it. Which one do you think is more effective? Let’s examine.

The Focus driven: they need to be doing one thing and one thing only at a time to be able to be effective and efficient and to get it done right. This, however, might take some time because it requires laser focus and concentration or chaos happens and nothing gets done. This person’s ability to get upset and get off-track is easy, because today’s work environment requires us to be doing more than one things at a time. According to Sander A. Flaum. “Handling a multitude of mundane but necessary tasks at one sitting can often save time.” I find this to be true as a multi-tasker myself. When I see a single-focused person so into doing what they are doing and spending so much time doing it, I get frustrated. But Sander followed up by saying, “when it comes to dealing with critical issues, leaders need to focus singularly on an A+ execution.” This I’m finding out is true as well. Lately, I’m beginning to see more and more that it’s way more effective getting one thing done at a time. I’m starting to realize the efficiency in this approach and how much time i was wasting in the past.

Multi-Pride:

I use to pride myself as the multi-tasker, brag a bit about how I’m able to drive a car while drinking a cup of coffee, smoking a cigar, chatting on the tele. I am superman, the man who can do it all at once and get it all done. Now I’m starting to realize that it’s not so efficient being a multi-tasker and I’m not as effective. This is a very humbling experience and an ego bruise, but I must admit, the facts are the facts. Paulo Coelho says “If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule: “Never Lie To Yourself.” What has caused me to come to such realization and admission? I’m starting to work with a singular-focused person and I realized that this person gets more done and way more effective and efficient than me. I use to make jokes towards these people but now the joke is on me. If you’re a proud multi-tasker, consider this, research has shown that multitasking can reduce productivity by approximately 40 percent. And switching from one task to another makes it difficult to tune out distractions and can cause mental blocks that can slow down your progress.

Be Bold-Embrace Change:

If what you’re doing is not working as well, don’t be scared to say it to yourself or your boss; be bold and let them know you can be more effective and efficient if you do only one thing at a time. And if you’re a multi-tasker like me, you need to put up a good fight with yourself and get on the path of getting things done, and done right. Believe me, you’ll be more happy and way more satisfied with your performance. And your confidence will rise, production will increase and results will be spectacular.

Sander A. Flaum says, the theorists who sold Americans on multitasking may have done us more harm than good. On American Management Association website, you can find Sander’s advice for today’s leaders, he says; Vow to do one thing exquisitely well today….

Quote of Sander Flaum:

“…leadership is distinguished by tackling the important issues. Put the highest priority challenge on the top of your list, stay extraordinarily focused on it, and execute it perfectly before moving to number two.”

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest. Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

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H-Day Report – Let it fly …

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In our workshop last night, the activity was speak for about 1.5 minutes on the word you pick from the pile. There was Action, Significant, Proactive, Plan, and etc. The lady who picked “significant” made a very good point. As she was not quite sure of the meaning, but had a feeling that it had similar meaning as “important”. So her view was that if we think too important of ourselves, we will find more problems in our lives than if we don’t. For example, when we talk with the kids, standing, esp. pointing out something they didn’t do right, we are showing our importance over them, and most likely we will get rebellion or resistance; however, if we kneel down at their eye level, we lower our position over them. You will find it’s easier to get to agreement and it’s easier for them to get our points, by simply giving up our feeling of importance.

Later on, she gave a metaphor of kite. The kite can fly high in the sky when it is light; however, if we put too much decorations or set up a complicated structure, it might not be able to fly that high, simply because it’s too heavy.

That reminds me of what Bishop T.D. Jake wrote. He said something about the wings. If we have too much on our wings, it’s hard to fly high. Those things on our wings are the attachments we tie on ourselves. Those are the people we giving permissions to control our mood, the concerns on the things that we can’t control, the frustrations from being rejected by other people, the depression of not being recognized, the confusion of not being understood. With all those hindrance in front of us, it’s such a struggle to take the next step, let alone to soar. We all have the desire for a happier life. We understand to live the moment. For sure, we can take small but significant steps to change our mindset towards what we want. Let go those attachment and be a light kite. Soar in the sky.

Dr. Wayne Dyer’s words to share with you:

Detach yourself
from the opinions of others;
from the habit of judging or controlling others;
from the past;
from the need to be right and to win;
from an obsession with material things.
Follow your passion in life,
but detach from the outcome
and allow the universe to handle the details.”

– Dr. Wayne Dyer

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

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M|M|C Report – To Be or Not To Be Happy at Work

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Since 2000 all the studies have shown that between 70-74% of employees hate their jobs.

It’s very difficult for an employee to have a conversation with their managers about their feelings for the jobs, besides, managers also fall into the job-hating category and if included in the statistics that number would probably jump 20%. The facts are – most people are unhappy at work. And if an employee hates his/her job that’s a problem to begin with, the work lags and the results short fall. Unhappy employees, including managers, will not maximize their output. And no one will ever be able to get them to a hundred percent effort, not even close. When we talk about employees we tend to forget that managers are people too and they also are in the stats of people who hate their jobs as well, and that energy gets transferred to the employees, which guarantees to dampen attitudes and lessen production.

Unhappiness

According to Gallup’s 2013 State of the American Workplace report.

Seventy percent of employees are either “not engaged” or “actively disengaged” at work. Put more simply, most of us hate our jobs. According to Gallup report, 52% of employees say they are basically “checked out” at work, and 18% say they’re so unhappy they’re actually acting out their unhappiness in the workplace. “Every day, these workers undermine what their engaged coworkers accomplish,” Gallup’s report says.

Employers play a key role in determining whether a workplace is enjoyable or not, of course. But employees also maintain significant control over whether they feel fulfilled at work. “A lot of what drives performance comes from the culture the manager puts in place, but individuals can take action to increase their own engagement,” says Jim Harter, Gallup’s chief scientist for workplace management. “It’s not just a one-way street.”

The Deniro

I agree with Jim Harter, but he’s forgetting one thing, an employee only owns their pay-check not their job. Employees these days are more aware of job scarcity and their expendability, and that they’re being substantially under paid. They know their company is making ton of money and only paying out minimal to them, therefore, the effort and attitude matches the pay check. People work for the pay check and not the company, that’s a fact. We are very aware of prices of goods and services sky rocketing for years. Prices have gone through the roof while incomes are still flooring it. Inflation went up more than 3% last year and income didn’t move. The employees feel the inflated prices while their company’s bank accounts grew bigger. These are some of the reasons why people are unhappy. They’re being asked to do more for less and managers don’t make it easy either, because they are unhappy as well. Companies need to remember that employees are the lifeblood of the business and performance should be rewarded. This will result into better managers and more employee satisfaction, win-win win for all.

The Ego

Most managers function on ego. It’s a fact that their positions get to their heads. They cannot help it because this is how we are as humans. It’s impossible to be in a power position and don’t use that power. You have to flex your muscles once in while. That’s one of the reasons why managers are in constant conflicts with their employees. The internal power struggle is hard to control; even the managers, who have figured out how to be respectful and effective managers to get the most out of their employees, still face the ego challenge more often than we think. It’s simply difficult to deal with people. However, it’s easier if everyone thinks they’re a part of the whole process and their role is vital for the company’s success, and that they’ll be handsomely rewarded for their efforts. The employees need to feel they’re contributing to the success of the company and they are making a difference, which makes them feel they’re a part of something bigger than their cubicle and in the end they will be showered with gratitude, recognition and appreciation and maybe rewarded with a bonus (cash).

Make the difference in the workplace by changing your attitude. Managers, make a difference by having gratitude and giving recognition to your people and finally, companies, pay your employees right and reward them for their efforts. If inflation goes up, increase employees’ pay. Make them feel like owners. You will get more out of your people and your bank account will reflect their efforts. Don’t be a lonely FAT CAT.

Managers and employees are the same just different names; managers must be able to manage themselves first, so is an employee.

Have you learned the lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed passage with you?

― Walt Whitman

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W|D|R – Embrace our lives

get well soonMy co-worker’s 2-year-old son was admitted to Sick Kids Hospital this morning after a week-long cold and fever like symptom. The diagnose is probably Kawasaki Disease. The last message I got from her was “He is under some serious treatment.” What a poor kid and what a poor mom! As a parent, my heart goes for her. It’s like visualizing when my daughter was in the hospital as a baby.

It is an immune disease, so there’s no clue when, where or how the kid got it. However, it just came without any warning. Life is fragile. It doesn’t matter what we want or how much we want, at the end of the day, it is what it is. I’m not spreading the doom’s day prophecy, but wish the things that happen around us will ring the bell for us, that be grateful for each and every day that we wake up, appreciate each and every person in our lives, embrace each and every challenges standing on our way, as all of these are there for a reason. We don’t need to wait for these dramatic changes in our lives to wake up the conscience in us. Reach out and embrace our lives.

Paul Coelho said, “One day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”

Let’s pray for the poor boy to get over this and get better soon. Let’s pray for being healthy and happy.

God bless Kevin!

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H-Day Report – What do you see at the end of the day?

end in mind“That’s exactly what I want to coach you for.” I couldn’t help complimenting the person sitting opposite me on his crisp insight after he explained to the growth of being a father. He is now a friend.

He is a very introvert and quiet man, if you sit in the same room with him, until he starts to talk. He will tell you what he’s been reading, the journals he’s been keeping for years and you can feel his willingness to share his thoughts with you. That’s such a welcoming and warm feeling. However, he told me six years ago, he was totally the opposite. The change started with the birth of his twin daughters. He knew the flaws in his personality, being isolated, being restricted and not enough confidence. So he decided that his daughters shouldn’t be like this. He wanted to change for his daughters, so that they could be happy, friendly, sociable and confident. You won’t believe what he has been through. He joined Toastmaster without being able to say more than three words; he made great efforts to talk to strangers; he attended various functions just to feel more comfortable making friends or acquaintance. Now he has won at least three first prize in his Toastmaster club. He has a lot of friends online and offline. He smiles more and he feels himself a good father. That’s the change. Nobody has ever told him to get out of his own world, but he, himself. It’s the change from the inside.

What force is behind his internal change, which is significant? He told me he has a picture of what kind of women he wants his daughters to be, so he started his journey to find any and every way to nurture that possibility by creating role model for the girls. My friend, this is what we always hear – begin with the end in mind.

When we can visualize what we want at the end of the day, what kind of person we want others to remember us after we are gone, what kind of parent, partner, associate, community member we want to be, we will generate that inside force to adjust our behaviours toward that picture.

Researches have been done on university students that they are told that “Assume you only have this one semester to live, and that during this semester you are to stay in school as a good student. Visualize how you would spend your semester.” Those highly educated and talented brains open a different perspective. They start writing to parents to tell them how much they love and appreciate them. They reconcile with a brother, sister, a friend where the relationship has deteriorated. The dominant, central theme of their behaviours, the underlying principle, is love.

Being able to apply the “begin with the end in mind” is the second personal victory in personal leadership. We will be able to use our imagination and conscience to visualize our principle and values. Picture ourselves being the caring parents, the understanding partner, the sincere friend, the responsible co-worker, or whoever we want to be remembered by at the end of the day, visualize our improved behaviour in crisis and our ability to control our reactions, so that when it happens, it’s not strange any more, and we don’t need to react, but be the leader of ourselves.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest.

Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

Hanh Consulting – Move People

 

 

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M|M|C Report – Take control of that space.

I came to work really late this morning, after I created the crisis for myself, and probably for my son, too.

He brought me his agenda to sign right before I was about to leave work this morning. Right on top of the page was the teacher’s comments in dark purple marker: “Eric has great difficulty following classroom instructions.” Oh My God, not a again! My son had such problems when he was in kindergarten. Now he has the best teacher in his school and it is only the second week of the new school year, I started to get the report. So you can guess what I did. I signed on the agenda and wrote back to the teacher that we would work with him to help my son. Then I questioned him what he did in school that left the teacher such impression. As I was rush, so I kind of lost my patience. He ended up crying and asked me to hug him. And I ended up late for work. It was definitely not a good start for Monday, you know.

After I talked with a friend, what he said surprised me. He said “That’s a good thing. Being late is a good thing for Monday, because you know something needs to be changed. So it’s good that it happens.” I didn’t expect that kind of feedback. On the other hand, it is true. It actually put me into thinking.

I remember I read a quote of Viktor Frankl, the psychiatrist and holocaust survivor:

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response likes our growth and our freedom.”

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Suppose if I paused after reading the teacher’s comments (the stimulus), instead of questioning my son right there, I chose to let it go for the moment, told my son that we would have some together-time after school and said good bye cheerfully and left on time (the response), what would that look like for me? No late for work for me, no tears for my son, no regret afterwards for me to create that rush leaving. What I would have is the freedom of no guilt, no rush, no apology. This is a perfect example of taking control of that space.

When we talk about leadership, we know it means the influence on other people to motivate them to achieve their goal. However, before we can demonstrate that impact, we must become the leader of ourselves. We can only give what we have, no other options. Taking control of our response and be responsible for our choices are so important in nurturing and demonstrating the leadership in ourselves.

My friends, Victor’s words may sound abstract and distant, but think carefully about our daily life. How many times we rush to respond to the stimuli, ending up with no result but further damage; or we respond to the positive stimuli too fast, ending up consume it all. It is our response to the stimuli that makes the difference.

Next time when we face the stimuli, PAUSE, and deal with it at a later time. Try it. One at a time.

Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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W|D|R – What does great leadership entail?

leadershipThere are so many articles and books about leadership these days. It is like the old saying “too many chiefs and not enough Indians”. Everyone is an expert. Let’s look at what leadership is and what they do.

According to Wikipedia:
Leadership has been described as “a process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task” For example, some understand a leader simply as somebody whom people follow, or as somebody who guides or directs others; while others define leadership as “organizing a group of people to achieve a common goal” Studies of leadership have produced theories involving traits, situational interaction, function, behavior, power, vision and values, charisma, and intelligence, among others.

An article in Forbes by Kevin Kruse explains his definition of what leadership is:
Leadership is a process of social influence, which maximizes the efforts of others, towards the achievement of a goal.

He then breaks it down into four elements:

  • Leadership stems from social influence, not authority or power
  • Leadership requires others, and that implies they don’t need to be “direct reports”
  • No mention of personality traits, attributes, or even a title; there are many styles, many paths, to effective leadership
  • It includes a goal, not influence with no intended outcome

He spoke of what leadership is and what it isn’t. He also mentioned a few popular names that have some ideas on leadership and pointed out the missing parts in their definitions. You can read his full article here to draw your own conclusion and opinion.
What is leadership?

Simple Leadership
I agree with some of Kevin’s ideas of what leadership isn’t, and some of what it is. But to say everyone else’s is too shallow and his is not, I have to disagree. He said leadership stems from social influence but he objected to the influence without intended outcomes. However, sometimes the influence created by leaders can be different from the initial goal, or it simply comes from some unintended actions.

Ghandi demonstrated his leadership to the world as the leader of the people of India. He would be first in line to take the beatings and to go to jail for his cause. His cause was simple – equal rights and justice for all. It was eventually accomplished with lots of bloodshed and a new country called Pakistan. Mother Teresa Embarked on a journey to help the poor without a penny to her name but with a steadfast belief that, “No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do your own work”. She believed that it was her calling and she was going to do it no matter what. Without a penny to her name and no idea of what the future held, she set out on her journey. Today, there are approximately 450 brothers and 5,000 sisters’ worldwide, operating 600 missions, schools and shelters in 120 countries. Do you think she had this goal when she started? Did she care about leadership? No! Both Ghandi and Mother Teresa just wanted to help people feel free and out of poverty. Their intension was not to build corporations and wealth. It was simply to help as many people as possible to find some self-worth. They both represented a simple leadership with influence created by unintended actions.

Leading from behind
Everyone have some level of leadership inside of them but, not everyone develop the ability to lead groups of people. Some people are born with leadership as strength, which is their “Talent” and they excel at it; while others struggle to lead themselves. I don’t believe we can say leadership is one way or they only have certain qualities. However, I do believe effective leaders give people the opportunity to learn how to fish, so to speak. They allow people to discover their strengths and ask thought-provoking questions that expose you to yourself. I believe a good leader understands that you’re the expert of you and if they can provide the right guidance using the right questions, you’ll be able to persuade yourself to take the actions to get the results all involved is looking for. I call it, “leading from behind”. It’s not my term. I borrowed it from a psychology program that believes people have the answers to their problems and each person is the expert of him/herself. I think if managers and leaders give people the opportunity to shine, they’ll surprise you.

Next time, before you tell someone what they need to do or give them the answers, first ask them a few questions to see what they think; then prowl deeper by asking a few more. The only criterion is to ask positive questions only. They’ll be more comfortable and open; they will expose themselves and have more clarity, and maybe you’ll help them discover their talents and become more productive and valuable in their lives and in society. The key to getting the best out of people is having them discover how good they really are.

Great leaders pay attention to what matters the most, “people”. Leading without the human element is like driving a car without a steering wheel.

A nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people. – Mahatma Gandhi

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Leading to success from behind

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H-H-D|What Are Your Internal Objections?

What Is Internal Objections?

Internal-b-2 I have a sales training program that I teach twice a week (Tuesdays & Thursdays). Every week they bring in a case that they’re having a bit of trouble with and we go over it to come up with a way to help them move the sale forward to a close. Last night we had only one case study and it wasn’t a case from one of their client, it was one of the students. This is a good sign that what we’re teaching is working. She said she wants to be able to be more comfortable speaking in front of groups, so she decided to take a Toast Master class and at her last class they asked her a few questions that she needed to stand up and answer and to say something about herself, but she froze and didn’t know what to say because she was nervous and couldn’t think of anything. She went on to say that she needed to be there today but she dread going because she need to stand up and speak, but afraid she’s going to freeze like last time. She said it wasn’t that she didn’t know what to say, it’s the other things that was going on in her head that took the place of what she wanted to say, things like, what if I screw up? What if they don’t understand me? My English is not good, I’ll feel embarrass if I mess it up and on and on. She had so many self-defeating thoughts going on at the moment that it increased her nervousness, lowered her confidence and placed her thinking in overdrive. I call this “Internal Objections”

Energy war:

What is an objection? It’s one of the most popular word used in sales. An objection is when you ask a client to buy your product, the client comes up with a reason why they cannot buy, you then try to find a way to overcome that reason (objection) before you can move forward to getting the sale, and if you don’t; no sale. Many books and articles are written about how to overcome objections from a client,  but we forget that the biggest objections to overcome first, is the ones inside of us. Whatever goes on inside our head is what comes out in our actions and what we give to others. Hence the saying, “thoughts are actions” In sales we’re taught that selling is a transference of feelings and Newton’s law explains that, “energy does not get lost, it merely transfers from one party to another”. Therefore, whatever is going on in our head is the message we are sending to the people around us. The message here is very simple: change the questions we ask ourselves and we’ll change the outcome. In the case of my student, all she needed to do was to change her line of self questions or simply start speaking, and that would have made all the difference.

The wrestler

Internal B-1We’re faced with internal wrestling matches everyday. It’s difficult to carry around calm confidence when we’re so wrapped up in a society of chase, even harder to be cool, calm and collected when we’re faced with challenges and things are not going so well in our lives. Our default mode doesn’t allow us to think or control our thinking anymore. We’re walking around like robots or zombies, only interested in the chase because we want more of this and more of that. But we don’t realize that our internal objections stop us from moving forward. It’s not negative or positive. It’s human, and it’s challenging to think differently when we’re in the situation. However, we can change, but it takes practice. Therefore, monitor your thoughts and next time when you find yourself with internal objections, start asking yourself opposite questions such as, “what if I went ahead and…?”, “Suppose I were to….?”, “I wonder what it would look like if I do…?”. Do this and you will guarantee to change the outcome.

“Judge a man by his questions rather than by his answers.”
Voltaire

 

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M|M|C Report – 100 years later

end in mindConsider the words of Joseph Addison:

“When I look upon the tombs of the great, every emotion of envy dies in me; when I read the epitaphs of the beautiful, every inordinate desire goes out.……………….When I read the several dates of the tombs, of some that died yesterday, and some six hundred years ago, I consider that great Day when we shall all of us be Contemporaries, and make our appearance together.”

What do you get from these words?

Reading these words, I can’t help but think about the things happening around me. No matter how important they seems to me right now, at the end of the day, do they really matter? As a friend once said to me, “100 years later, do you think what matters to us right now means anything anymore? Nothing, simply nothing.” Isn’t it true? Whatever emotions that drive us crazy; whatever desires that control our behaviours; whoever used to be the king of the world; whoever used to be competitors, rivals, alliance or strangers; when that Day comes, anything means something?

Picture yourself in the forest, in the mountain, by the ocean, or a place of vast space around you, without boundaries for you to see. Feel the mist around you, close and afar; listen to the birds’ singing or the water giggling; look at the clouds changing shapes; observe the sun traveling across the sky dome. Where are you? What are you thinking about? Are you really think of anything? Isn’t the vast of the surroundings a shock to our image? It is when we accept the greatness and vast of something bigger than us, that we realize we are so small, too small to be bothered by the trivia. There are more important things for us to do than sinking ourselves into the busy-ness of life. It’s possible to be very very busy without being very effective. The key to break this activity trap is to have a clear and deep understanding of what is really important to us, keep that in mind and manage ourselves to be and to do what really matters most.

Remember, it’s a process of understand, do and be. In that case, we may be very busy, very efficient and we will also be truly effective.

Activate the H.A.N.H. in you.

To your success.

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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