Monthly Archives: April 2014

H-Day – Dr. Maya Angelou’s thoughts of growing older

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One of The Great Voices of Contemporary Literature, Poet, Educator, Historian, and Best-Selling Author

I read this, thought it was quite interesting and as a fan and admirer, wanted to share. Afterwards, I encourage you to visit the website for Dr. Maya Angelou.

In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday. Oprah asked, what she thought of growing older. And, she said.

“I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.”

“I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.”

“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.”

“I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as “making a life.”

“I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.”

“I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.”

“I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.”

“I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.”

“I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.”

“I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.”

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I wish I could live to 70+, so I can leave some words for the world to share. I wish I could live to 70+ and as wise as Dr. Maya Angelou, and have that contented smile for the people around.

Life is the best teacher. Life is the best classroom. Life is the best stage for us to be who we are.

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When Your Success Appears Impossible Infuse It With Resilience

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What can we say about resilience except “some of us need a greater level of it”. A life lived with much resilience is the impetus of success and very few will disagree with the statement. Lineage may override the need for a life of resilience, which sometimes happen in cases where one was born into a “bed of comfort” if you may, resulting in the lack of spark to ignite the need for such individuals to develop a life of resiliency. Naturally, if we were born into wealth, marry into wealth or inherit wealth, then we don’t have to do much more to make a name for ourselves or to be considered significant in the business community, because all that we need can be purchased or we can trade to acquire that which we desire.

Many self-made millionaires will tell you, that they have arrived at this place because they put on the armour of resilience and worked/toiled into the early hours of the morning, to achieve their wealth since they didn’t have the lineage that would override the need for resilience. This process known as resilience is not only embedded in the character of the rags to riches group but it is also found in devoted parents, caregivers, detectives, students, non-status immigrants and a struggling/successful business owner to name a few. If we had the opportunity to talk to any of the above mentioned classified group, we would realize that there is a measure of resilience behind most success stories. Continue reading

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M|M|C Report – Ten Years Ago

change lifeGood morning, Champs! Wish you’ve enjoyed the beautiful weather during the weekend! The moisture is coming this week, but with sunshine in your heart, I believe, it doesn’t matter it’s pouring or sunny outside, right?

Imagine you are sitting at home enjoying the weekend, and someone knocked on your door. When you opened the door, a group of journalists poured into your home. It turned out that when that someone who is extremely successful was interviewed, he attributed most of his successes to something you said or did ten years ago. So the media took down your name and were coming to interview you, as the most influential person of the year. They wanted to know the answers to the following questions:

1.       What characters did you see in him ten years ago?

2.       What did you do to make the change?

3.       What message would you like to send to him? Continue reading

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W|D|R – The Domino Effect

dominoThe domino effect is used so often in our lives to describe the events that are going wrong. We tend to turn to pity party questions such as, “why me?”, “How come these things always happen to me?” It seems as if bad things are always happening and you never can catch a break. I agree that life is hard and is always giving us lessons but, if we always have our focus on how bad things are, that’s what will consistently come to us; it’s the focus theory. “We get what we focus on” as Tony Robbins put it. If you focus on the wall you’ll hit the wall. If you work from the end in mind, things are a lot easier. One small thing can lead to a chain of events. Winston Churchill said, “The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity and the optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty. Again, we get what we focus on.

In the book Celestine Prophecy, nothing in life is coincidence, and everything happens for a reason. If you believe that maybe you should start looking at the reasons when you think bad things are happening to you instead of focusing on what is happening, look for something good in it and put your focus there.

When it rains it pours on both sides, but somehow we use it when we think bad comes to us. If you think the rain is pouring when things are going good, you’ll start the process of shifting your thinking. I was at a seminar and the speaker was telling his story of all the things that had happened to him. He spoke about all the dreadful things, how his friend, who was trying to help with starting up his business got run over and died while riding his bicycle to meet him; how his car got repossessed and how his house was foreclosed on and on and on. The story was so bad that it started to be depressing. But, then it took a turn. In hindsight, he realized that things happened for him to be where he is at today. When his car was repossessed and he had no other income sources to keep up with living, his wife had to go find a job and that led to an opportunity, in which he met her co-worker’s husband who helped him build up his billion dollar business later. The death of his friend gave him an opportunity to rethink about his life. He got to re-value what was important in his life, reposition himself, pulled himself back together and stood up to continue his journey. It was on this journey that he used his strength and resilience to overcome the hindrance and hurdles and rebuild his dream. It was the searching for the light spots in the darkness on this journey that helped him make his life a success, living a richer and more meaningful life. If his focus was on the knock down, he would have still be down but, he got up, dusted himself off, found the good in what is happening and kept going, kept moving forward.

It is positive to look at the light at the end of the tunnel, but don’t forget to catch the light spot in the darkness. It is these little dots that open your mind and motivate you to keep going forward until the end of the tunnel.

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H-Day Report – How to fix your booboo?

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Do you know what I prepared for myself this coming Hump day? I made a booboo at work. It’s such a kiddy word, meaning mistakes.

I prepared a correct business name registration for a client to sign. However, the copy I sent for filing was with a typo on the name, an extra “h”. I only found that out until I received the filed copy. As a rule, the name itself can’t be revised once filed. So what can be done was to cancel this one and register the correct name, which was another filing fee payment. What am I gonna do? The first moment I saw the booboo, the only thing I said was “S—”. Oh, gosh, I felt scared, anxious, nervous, guilty and pissed off, you name it. Since it is done and can not be reversed, being panic won’t help. I took several deep breaths and calmed down. I took the wrong form to my manager and explained the situation, expressed my apology and put forward my suggested solutions. Fortunately, it was not a sever mistake. The wrong name was cancelled and the correct name was registered. It was solved to its best, but it is a good lesson for me.

Have you ever made booboo, at work, in relationship, with people? How did you deal with it? What I did today was really a practice of what I learned from books. Not on life-and-death situation, of course. If we make a mistake, the first thing is to not panic but to calm down. It’s so natural to get nervous after we did something wrong, so it takes initiative, efforts and practice to be aware of calming yourself down. Remember, the more nervous we are, the less rational decisions we can make. The second thing is to think of the possible solutions. The good news about this is that we tend to be clearer of how to do things after we fail it. So take the time to think about what you can do to fix it. The third thing is to admit your mistake, to your supervisor or to the person(s) involved, putting forward the solutions at the meantime. Your boss or supervisor doesn’t want to deal with problems, so don’t bring problems to them. Even if you have to, bring suggestions on the possible solutions will partly make up for your negligence or carelessness. It is you who made the mistake; it has to be you to face the consequence. So if you made a booboo in a relationship, be conscious of the impact it has on the other person, be empathy of their situation, be brave to apologize, learn from the mistake and move on.

“Hey, don’t worry too much about the booboo. It will be fine. We all make booboos at times.”, a message from a friend.

 

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BLESSED IS THE MAN

Every morning when we wake up, we are blessed, without us doing anything. Isn’t it an amazing feeling when we realize it? Shall we do something to spread the blessing? Do something from the virtue, the goodness of your heart. If you decide to give money to the poor guy wandering around the corner, don’t question if he’s gonna use the money for anything. If you decide to help a friend out of some trouble, don’t question if he would take advantage of your deed. Once you decide to do something good, do it with your good heart. You will be blessed.BlessedCover2

Blessed is the Man

He who knows he’s blessed, his soul is likewise.

He, who is a blessing, partakes in eternity.

Truly, The Spirit says blessed is that man!

But he, who withholds a blessing, hinders his own inheritance.

 

He, who keeps God’s promises, craves the master’s heart.

He who seeks the master’s will is bound by the master’s covenant.

Truly, The Spirit says blessed is that man!

But he who changes the promised code, delight in endless pain.

 

He, who knows he’s blessed, knows he shares the master’s treasure.

He, who kept the law of the proverbs, oversees the living treasury.

Truly, The Spirit says blessed is that man!

But he, who murmurs, discontinues life’s true legacy.

 

He who is blessed simply knows he is.

He, who knows the measure of his blessing, is charged with using an unworthy scale!

And he, who resorts to a form of measure, tries to activate God’s muted option.

Truly, can such a man say he is blessed?

 

Sign: Erma. Washington

Poet

July 14, 2010

 

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M|M|C Report – Powerful Peace from Thich Nhat Hanh

 

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The focus of this article is on compassion, empathy and love, which is applicable to all aspects of our life. This can be used to better yourself and the relationships you cultivate, and using it towards yourself first, you’ll be able to lead a stress free and fruitful lifestyle with clarity, understanding, peace and serenity. e.g. this past holiday weekend, did you pick up the phone and call someone you haven’t seen or talked to in a long time?..This is where care, love and forgiveness comes in; freeing your mind and opening up your heart to let the light in. Remember, you can’t give what you don’t have, therefore to feel love or to be loved, you must give it. Don’t be afraid to let your love shine, especially for yourself. It builds your self-esteem and confidence and make you feel peacefully UN-stoppable.

As Mandino writes, “Muscles can split a shield but, it’s only the unseen POWER of LOVE can warm the heart of men.”

Keep the “beginner’s mind”, which is the deep intention, the deepest desire a person may have. Imaging when you first learned to ride a bike, the first time you know how to make sculpture, the first time you read an inspiring quote that opens up your mind, what do you feel? The moment is always with you because you lived the moment so you own it. It is with the beginner’s mind that we can keep the desire to learn more and explore more and enjoy more.

 “Deep listening is the kind of listening that can relieve the suffering of the other person.” Thich Nhat Hanh explains the deep listening as compassionate listening. The only purpose of such listening is to let the other person to empty their hearts so that they will suffer less. If you feel they have wrong perceptions and you want to correct them, wait and find another time. At this moment, you are there simply to listen to them to empty their hearts and suffer less.

The fear, the anger and the despair is born on the ground of wrong perception. Wrong perceptions result in a lot of anger, mistrust, suspicion, hate and terrorism.”  When we listen unmindfully, we might be misled by the wrong perceptions to say the hurtful words and do unjustifiable things that we may later feel regretful, esp. to the people who are close to us. We can not remove wrong perceptions through punishment, but with deep and compassionate listening. When we communicate with compassion, we are using language that does not have the elements of anger and irritation in it. We are practicing mindfulness of acceptance, understanding and supportive.

Mantras for relationship:

The first mantra is “Darling, I’m here for you.” When you love someone, the best thing you can offer to him or her is your presence.

The second mantra is “Darling, I know you are there.” The moment you say it, you will feel more secure and relaxed, because of the presence of him or her.

The third mantra is when your beloved one is suffering, “Darling, I know you’re suffering. That’s why I’m here for you.” Before you do anything, your presence is the best relief, meaning you are there to listening to the suffering and you two are together.

The fourth mantra is when you are suffering because of your beloved one. You are hurt. You just want to go to your room and suffer alone, say “Darling, I am suffering. Please help me.” The moment you say it, you let go of your pride and become closer to your beloved one. Pride does not have a place in true love. Pride should not prevent you from going to him and saying that you suffer and need his help. We need each other.

Remember to love means to be recognized as existing.

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W|D|R – Happy Easter Everyone

plutchiks-wheel-of-emotions-2It’s the time of the year to relax and enjoy friends and family, to take a break from the daily grind of life. It’s important to get out of your head sometimes and be present, in the moment. This is a great opportunity to do this, to rejuvenate and reconnect. Go and visit a friend, call upon a family member you haven’t seen or talked to in a long time.

Remember, you are going for the feeling-good feeling and every body likes to feel good. If you make someone feel good, it reciprocates; therefore, you’re both enjoying a m0ment of exhilaration, excitement and an infusion of the feel good mojo (endorphins). So spend the weekend getting your euphoric highs in, muster feel-good thoughts, hand out feel-good words and allow the  feelings of excitement and satisfaction to flow.

According to psychologist Robert Plutchik’s. The eight primary emotions are—anger, fear, sadness, disgust, surprise, anticipation, trust, and joy. These are the emotions that are responsible for our behaviours, each triggers a different behaviour, such as the way fear inspires the fight-or-flight response. So you can choose to spend your weekend arguing with someone, stressing yourself out and getting your nickers in a frenzy or you can spend it handing out feel good mojo, your choice.

I like both quotes:

Plant seeds of happiness, hope, success, and love; it will all come back to you in abundance. This is the law of nature.”
Steve Marabo

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself in your way of thinking.”

Marcus Aurelius

#Happyweekend

The RS Team

 

 

 

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SPRING INTO TULIP POSSIBILITIES

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Each season of the year has unique possibilities but spring represents a welcome change from the cold winter months. The arrival of spring says soon there will be life in the garden again. One of our major spring activities is gardening which has many benefits such as, personal therapy, some stretching and bending exercises, socializing and the greatest of all is that, gardening adds beauty to our lawn and homes by enhancing curb appeal. 

Tulips are among the many variety of flowers some avid gardeners love as perennials, mainly because of their longevity and cost saving ability. They are also popular because of their color variations, which adds beauty to our garden and is a great moral booster. For this reason, many of us are encouraged to spend time and money on our garden. Furthermore, tulips are not only beautiful, but they are also one of the prominent markers of the first sign of life in our garden in the early spring. Continue reading

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H-Day Report – All About Resilience

John-Paul Flintoff on #RiotCleanUp

John-Paul Flintoff on #RiotCleanUp

Have you ever participated in long distance running, such like Marathon? I haven’t, even though I’m preparing for my first. But I ran 5k in high school. If you’ve had experience in long distance running, you must have had such moment. You’re only two more lapses away to finish your race. At that moment, your throat is burning, your legs are dragging behind and your arms are wiggling. You know, for sure, what you need is to stop. If you stop, you can catch up with your breaths, you can rest your body and get over it. But on the other hand, you’ve done almost 85% of the mission, and you know you can finish it. If you choose to continue, you are demonstrating a simple side of your resilience. Continue reading

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