When black is all they recognize, there is fear in owning that. What great a struggle to realize, black’s history greatest shade. If black is all they are willing to see, then allow the pendulum to take its place. The names hurt deeply, but no, not the color of my skin.
Is black the only charge I have?
When black is all they recognize, there is fear in owning that. If I believe the charge is mine, then how will I, release myself, from the slavery of their minds?
What bill of rights, was granted blacks, to choose their shade, from among the proud?
Is black the only charge I have? Continue reading
A few days ago, I read a book about Sir Edmund Hillary, one of the first people to set foot on the summit of Mount Everest. In the book he said what he and his Sherpa, Tenzing Norgay, had done would nowadays seem ridiculous and amateurish from the viewpoint of a modern professional mountaineer. “We had very simple equipment and very primitive climbing techniques. The only thing that we really knew how to do well was carving one step after the other into the snow. In all humility I can say that we were champions in simply shaping and preparing the next step in the snow or ice, which then got us one step closer to our goal.”
Sir Edmund was obviously very clear about his clues for upcoming progress on his journey. How about us? On our journey to reach our goal, personal and professional, we have that desired future in mind and we understand that momentum can be achieved by taking small steps. But are we really aware of the clues of our progress? Do we keep track of those small steps? Continue reading
Happy Monday, Champs! Did you enjoy the beautiful weather on Saturday? The rising temperature made me feel like spring is coming, even though it was a little slushy, if you keep your focus on the warm sunshine, the mild breeze, the blue sky and the fresh smell, you will look at the slush differently.
When things or relationships in your life don’t progress in the pace or direction that you want, what can you do? On top of change the things and the other people, what else can you do? I observed an inspiring coaching session today and would like to share it with you. Continue reading
Check out the list of gifts from The Ultimate Gift by Jim Stovall:
The Gift of work
Be able to work is a gift that allows you to create, to build up, to change, to have the opportunity to realize your value. We must learn to work for our money.
The Gift of Money
Obviously money is a gift but what lies behind is a sense of financial awareness. It is a learning process to manage how to balance your assets and your liabilities; how to make rational investments; how to save for emergency or retirement.
The Gift of Friends
Friends make our life colorful and wonderful. A friend is someone who is always there and will always, always care. A friend is a feeling of forever in the heart. A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are. With friends, even when you are alone, you can still feel that connection.
The Gift of Learning
Learning is a lifelong journey that expands as you travel. A graduation ceremony is a commencement because the process of learning begins or commences at that point. Continue reading
HAPPY H-Day Champs!
Most of us is coming off a long holiday day weekend. How are you feeling? Are you dreading work wishing you were still on holiday? Not to worry. It’s normal. This is something the majority of us do, and you will make it through the day and the week. When we’re about to go on holiday, our mindset gets shifted into holiday mode and now all you have to do is change it back. It’s that simple. It is only a matter of choice.
Athletes often use mental exercises to prepare for big events. They visualize their success as if they were playing. Do the same for yourself. Picture yourself being well rested, happy to see your colleagues and ready to take on the day with focus and energy. Then, make it happen.
Close your eyes for a moment and imagine you were picking up your cheque today from the lottery commission, you were the grand prize winner, you won the jackpot. How would you feel? Perceive today as your grand prize day, your reward day, and your red carpet day. Today is your champ day and you’re being recognize for it…How does that make you feel? Continue reading
Hi, Champs, how was your Family Day? We hope our Champs focus on such a special day on family and enjoy the togetherness, the bonding and the closeness. Even if you are the only member in the family for now, you still can do something to make the place more like home, right?
While I was playing with the kids in the park, I received a call from a friend. We haven’t seen each other for a long time, so he asked about my kids. I told him that my daughter is eight already. He sounded so shocked and let out a sigh, “Wow. Time really flies.” It kind of reminds me that she was that little baby just a few days ago. Without realizing or not, she has grown into a smart, compassionate and independent girl. Time passes by us quietly, continuously and fairly, just like that. Continue reading
Detachment, also expressed as non-attachment, is a state in which a person overcomes his or her attachment to desire for things, people or concepts of the world and thus attains a heightened perspective. (Wikipedia). In Zen Buddhist philosophy, detachment is to separate oneself from one’s own thoughts and opinions in detail as to not be harmed mentally and emotionally by them.
My understanding of detachment is that we will get the peace, happiness, satisfaction and enjoyment in our lives when we come to equanimity with anything outside of us, physical and emotional. In our relationships, detachment is the side product of setting the boundaries (the “B” Rule). When we respect the other party as an individual with his/her boundaries, we will accept the fact that we can not ask them to be around us all the time. We practice “touch and let go”, meaning we feel the presence of that person in our lives and then set them go free. The fact that relationships are impermanent, even though harsh, once we understand the authenticity, it will be easier to detach our emotion and feelings from the presence of the other person.
Being less clingy, less attaching, more letting go will nurture the relationship to the right direction. Allow the universe to handle the details. Continue reading
by Erma Washington
Seasons and occasions marked by colors are always significant to those who wish to participate in the many traditions we hold dear to our hearts. One of those traditions is Valentine’s Day, which is traditionally marked by one of our most vibrant colors, red.
Red has become a reigning champion for our Valentine’s occasion sending the message that red is the language of love. Almost every department store we enter has their display windows and shelves filled with an abundance of red items, suggesting that a gift or purchase for this very brief moment must at least be wrapped in red. Continue reading
The 5 essentials to effective communication in life….
Use it at work or home, even among friends.
Intentional Listening is an art. Most people want to talk rather than listen. They just want to yap, yap, and yap. It’s essential to listen when you want to converse with someone. Listening is very important. Listening can determine if you get the respect you deserve from your peers, colleagues and your bosses. It’s extremely important for your bosses to know that you are an intentional listener, just in case the promotion comes up, you might want to be in the running.
Being empathetic is an amazing way of communication. It helps you to understand the person/persons position more clearly, so you are able to offer feedback that minimizes pain and maximizes pleasure. This form of communication is powerful and swaying. i.e. I do understand Mary/Joe, and I feel for the situation; however, what if you do this or do that, what do you think would happen? or how would you feel? How would they feel?.Empathy allows you to listen intentionally. It shows you care and it allows the other party/parties to feel comfortable with you. Remember, no body cares about how much you know until they know how much you care. #Care First Continue reading
Building up a relationship you desire can be as complicated as a degree program, if you don’t practice, you might still be ruled out due to lack of experience. But if you are a do’er, it can be as easy as the alphabet with which you begin to read. I’d like to explore some of those tips with you and hope they will wake up the genuineness in you.
I mean the genuine appreciation. Appreciate a picture that your kids draw for you on Mother’s day or Father’s day; appreciate the lights on when you are late to come home; appreciate the apple that was slipped into your bag; or even appreciate the nagging to remind you putting on extra layers on a cold winter morning. When we are under the daily pressure, when we get used to the atmosphere of the relationship, we become lazy in expressing appreciation, or worse, we are numb at all those little details that used to move us into tears when the relationship begins.
“Treat the others the way you want to be treated.” Next time when you want to complain about not being appreciated for your kindness, hold your horses, be mindful of the way you say it and think about if you’ve expressed your appreciation in return. Continue reading