“Detach yourself from the opinions of others;
from the habit of judging or controlling others;
from the past;
from the need to be right and to win;
from an obsession with material things.
Follow your passion in life,
but detach from the outcome and allow the universe to handle the details.”
- Dr. Wayne Dyer
1. To separate or unfasten; disconnect
2. To remove from association or union with something: detach a calf from its mother; detached herself from the group.
3. To send (troops or ships, for example) on a special mission.
1. the state of not being influenced by emotion or prejudice.
2. the act of detaching.
3. a group (especially of soldiers). A detachment was sent to guard the supplies.
My understanding of Dr. Dyer’s above quotes is that we will get the peace, happiness, satisfaction and enjoyment in our lives when we come to equanimity with anything outside of us, physical and emotional.
Physical attachment will confine us in the pursuit of money, status, fame, relationship (certain people), anything that in the realm of possession. Physical attachments can be lost, and we feel loss and disappointment that we can’t have what we want.
Emotional attachment will tie us with certain ideas, opinions, relationships (certain feelings), and feelings that may influence our thinking, mood and attitude. Emotional attachment can be missing, and we get frustrated that the world doesn’t conform to our ideas and opinions.
The more attachments we create, the more frustrated we may get, because literally we attach our level of happiness to these attachments and they become the decisive factors of our lives. They silently steal the freedom we really have. We don’t realize how much of our lives are spent in pursuit of the things that we think can make us happy. When we get what we want, we don’t stay long before we start to chase something else. We don’t realize how much of our lives are spent chasing the things that we think we have to have to make us happy. When we can’t have them, we become disappointed. The worry, the disappointment, the anxiety and the prejudice are all attachments that are created from the things we think can make us happy.
Detach from the external things. Stop giving them the power to make us miserable. Free from the cycle of chasing what we want and avoiding what we don’t want. Go back to equanimity and Live the moment.