2016-11-30

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Quote: I will prepare and some day my chance will come. – Abraham Lincoln

Quote by Tim Fargo

When we were babies, we must eat, eat and eat, so as to build up stronger arms and legs to move around, rather than limited to the cribs.

When we started to speak, we must know the sound, the alphabet, the vocabulary and the expression, so as to communicate properly.

When we learn to sing, we must learn the notes. A line from my favorite movie Sound of Music reads, “when you read you begin with A B C, when you sing you begin with Do Re Mi…”

In order to compete on the highest level in sports, the athletes must prepare themselves by creating more intense practice sessions, heavier workload and more repetitions to excel.

To become famous artists, one must start from the mundane foundational sketches, living through being neglected, practicing consistently to shine.

At our daily workplace, in order to get the pay raise or promotion, we must do our homework, expand our competences and increase our experience to be recognized.

However, what if all the overload exercise, the repetitive practice and the continuous improvement does not guarantee the winning, which is the reality often times?

Remember, without the preparation of the caterpillar, there will be no butterfly; without the preparation of the egg, there will be no chicken; without the preparation of the acorn, there will be no big oak. Have faith in the fire burning in your heart. Believe that all that you do, no matter they bring you the results you are looking for or not, you are growing in the process. Life is a long preparation for something that never happens. (William Butler Yeats). The reason we celebrate life is to celebrate that it happens.

Happy Attitude Nourishes Harvest!

Hanh Consulting – Move People

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2016-11-21

Quote: Personal impact: Out work them. Out read them. Out last them. – Tom Peters

Quoted by Tim Fargo

This is clearly a leader mentality.

It originates from strong self-discipline. When they are playing, we are working. When they are watching soap operas, we are biting the words. When they are taking a break, we are making our efforts. This is how we can create personal impact, establish our brands and leave our legacy.

Speaking of out working them, we are looking at an image whose feet are down on the ground, sticking to the plan and turning motions into actions. We all have times that we want to take a break or smell the flowers. However, when our desire for success is strong enough, we can turn any moment into building up ourselves, physically, financially and mentally.

Speaking of out reading them, I would introduce a saying to you, “Reading ten thousand books, travelling ten thousand miles.” While we are reading, we are actually learning others’ experience, either to avoid detours or to learn to identify more opportunities. The knowledge we get from those books is the only thing that stays with us, won’t be stolen, won’t be lost. When we understand why we pick up the book, we will have the reason to continue.

Speaking of out lasting them, we are touching our cores. Our cores are our characters. Our characters are who we really are. As Dr. Stephen Covey said, “Character (what a person is) is ultimately more important than competence (what a person can do). Both are important, but character is foundational. All else builds on this cornerstone.” At the end of the day, what makes us last is our character and contributions. Learn to be humble, focus on integrity and character, and make a contribution.

“Sow a thought, reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sow a character, reap a destiny.” – Stephen Covey

Happy Attitude Nourishes Harvest!

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2016-11-17

Quote: Leaders think and talk about the solutions. Followers think and talk about the problems. – Brian Tracy

Quoted by Jamy Bechler

Let’s have an experiment. Hold your hand, either left or right, in front of your eyes, an inch away. Spread your fingers apart. Now look at your fingers and tell me what you see. “Fingers”, right? Now look afar, through the gaps between the fingers and tell me what you see. “Anything other than the fingers.” Is that right? When we turn our focus away from the fingers, we see a lot more stuff afar and the fingers even can’t block our vision.

I think this is a simple analogy of looking ahead.

Another situation. If you are the manager of your department, one of your staff is always late for work. You want to remind her to be on time. You sit face to face and you ask,

“Hi Tracy, why are you always late?”

“Because I need to drop off my kids at school before coming to work and by the time I get on the bus, no matter what I do, I can only be here 20 minute behind.”

“Why can’t you leave a little earlier?”

“The school doesn’t open until 8am, so that’s the earliest I can drop them off.”

Does the conversation sound like interrogation? Do you think the answer relates to how Tracy can be on time to work? Not likely. The more questions are asked, the more issues are revealed.

We all have this kind of inclination to look at the problem and analyze, with the hope to find the answers. However, as one of the leading coaching methodology, Solution-focused coaching originating from Solution-focused Brief Therapy, states that “the solution is not necessarily directly related to the problem.”, instead, the solutions lies in our preferred state, the moment/situation when we do not have the problem any longer. When we have a clear picture of how we would be when the problems no longer exist, we can work backwards to find out how we can get there. Was there any past experience that we can draw upon, or what needs to happen for us to clear the problem.

When we focus on the problems, they will only become more intimidating and serious. When we focus on the solutions, we will see the situation differently and become more creative and motivated to come up with more solutions.

Leaders won’t create excuses to get away. They only embrace challenges to triumph.

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2016-11-16

Quote: A joyful heart is the inevitable result of a heart burning with love. – Mother Teresa

Quoted by Tim Fargo

There’s a saying in Chinese, “Your words resemble your heart.” There is also an idiom, “a slip of tongue.” What do these words mean? We must watch our words. However, as true as it is, no matter how carefully we watch our words, if our heart in not pure, the real intention will ultimately disclose itself sooner or later.

We reveal what we think. You can try an experiment. Now, please think about a lemon, or a lime, to make it better, the fresh, juicy lime. Is your mouth watering? On the reverse side, we can trick our brain to help us become more motivated and persistent. That is why in coaching, especially, Solution-focused coaching, the coach helps the coachee to create a preferred future, so vivid, with as much details as possible, which makes the coachee’s brain believe that their desired change has actually taken place. The happiness, satisfaction, peace, content, and the positive side of life are so vivid, that it is hard to resist keeping it up.

Saying these, we all have experienced what has become a cliché. Think happy thoughts and we will become happy. Think loving thoughts and we will become tolerate, accepting, understanding and inclusive. The good news is that as it says, “All things have two sides.” Believe it or not, as long as you are mindful enough to find out. For example, if you were left out from a department meeting, instead of letting the worry that you are in trouble haunting you for the rest of the day, why not think about less responsibilities to take on further. (I am a workaholic, so I would like to take on more responsibility, but I also enjoy periodic leisure time.). Remember if it is bad news, it is happening any way, not any worry can change it; if it is good news, it better comes more frequently, right? At least, the worry will not ruin the very moment of your life.

Neuroscience has proved that our brains acknowledge perceptions the same way as real pictures, meaning, if you perceive an achievement of some kind, your brain actually regards that it has happened. I think this can be another one explanation of the Laws of Attraction.

Having a loving heart helps us bypass the hindrance, surpass the resentment and compass confusions and lost. It fills our lives with moments of compassion, empathy, rapport and contentment. No wonder we will have a joyful life.

Happy Attitude Nourishes Harvest!

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2016-11-09

Quote: Do your little bit of good where you are; it is those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world. – Desmond Tutu

Quoted by Tim Fargo

The world was overwhelmed this morning by the result of the Election. Some are overjoyed and some are desperate. Some are welcoming the era of liberation and some are ready to jump the cliff. Stock markets surged. People wore mourning faces. It is like the end of the world.  The nation was divided into two. The world was divided into two. When the patriotism is thrown at bay, will there be any hope whoever is in power?

What are we talking about? Are we talking about the US as a nation, or are we talking about the favor for or contra to our own preference? We used to condemn the personal attacks between the two candidates during the debates and the whole election period, but are we practicing the same personalization of a nation’s future? Does it matter whether it is the Republican or the Democratic, as long as whoever is in power does the right thing to bring prosperity and growth to the US?

We should be allowed to express our preference and vent our disappointment at the high point. We should also hold up high of what we actually want. The time we spend analyzing the problems or merging in sadness can be better used to find solutions and plan what we can do. If our celebration is for the victory of a country’s new President; if our tears are for the haunted uncertainty over the country, let’s do what a citizen/resident can do, be supportive, be contributing and be understanding. All what we will do is for the country, if that’s what you are praying for.

At the end of the day, it is not Trump or Clinton, it is not Republican or Democratic that can do anything, it is the United States of America, it is the people of the United States of America, who stay strong and prosperous. We are not living for Trump. We are not living for Clinton. We are living for our own identity.

“Together we are stronger.” Who said it is irrelevant. The truth is the truth. We are contributing for the country, a place to call home. Long live, America!

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2016-11-07

Quote: Everything from your past does not belong in your present. – Lolly Daskal

Quoted by Dave Sitzler @daveSitzler

One of my favourite quotes from Kunfu Panda is “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. But today is a gift. That’s why it is called present.”

There is not need to investigate who said this. It gives us a new perspective to look at our paths. When we are focusing on living the present, be in the moment, we are too busy to spend time contemplating the past or forward-thinking the future. It doesn’t matter we are talking about past successes or past failures. Because, when we live every current moment the way we are supposed to do and make it count, we are learning from the past failures to avoid making the same mistake, or we are repeating our past successes to build success upon success, either way, we are growing. On the other hand, if we live every current moment to our fullest, it is no doubt that our future is on the path of our vision. We are growing as well.

Growing is the best gift we have from life. It doesn’t necessarily mean become richer financially, it also means become richer experientially, which is what is called wiser. The more we experience, the more we learn, both the good and the bad, and to collect the good and eliminate the bad.

Everything from our past is a baggage to us, physically, mentally and emotionally. I remember Bishop T.D. Jakes gave a vivid metaphor. He described, “Overloaded people fail. They always have and they always will… Like an airplane, we can only carry a certain amount of weight. If we have too much baggage on board, we will be ineffective and we won’t be able to soar…..In order to maximize your life, you have to minimize your load”

Live today as a gift. Control today as we like.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

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2016-11-04

Quote: Any eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. – Mahatma Gandhi

The only time that you should get even with someone is when they do something good. – Jamy Bechler @CoachBechler

It is Friday. TGIF. It is a day to celebrate after the uphill and downhill of a whole work week. If everyone is given the same rights, then everyone should have the same opportunity to live Friday the way they want. But it is not the same to the at least 200 refugees out of Libya.

I heard from the news this morning that out of Libya on the Mediterranean Sea, 2 boats full of refugees sunk and over 200 people lost their lives, with a certain number of pregnant women and children. My first reaction was shock. “Not again.” I pray for those lost lives. Wish them rest in peace. No more fleeing. No more threatening. No more risking. All ends at that moment.

After attending the 6 Degree Conference this September, I started to follow certain people on Twitter, like some special correspondents, MSF, AJ English Channel, I learned about the bombing in Aleppo , Syrian refugees, mistreatment to the black. What is wrong with the world? What is the purpose of those who elevate their own power fights or personal preference to the sacrifice of normal people, their peer humans? Nobody says you should save the world. But if everyone, literally, everyone manages his/her own business, does the right thing, and cares about the consequence of his/her doings, the world can be a much better place.

On Twitter, I saw Gandhi’s above quote posted by Jamy Bechler. What if people can really open their eyes and minds, read the words and reflect on their doings?

It is easier said than done. However, we can always do something. When it comes to war or regional conflicts, the root cause is nothing but selfishness and ignorance. No matter how grand or religious or righteous is claimed, the truth that cities are rooted, people are killed and economy is ruined, can not be denied. It is the outrageous selfish that blinds the eyes and block the hearts of some people to the sufferings and pains of peer humans. The war creators only have eyes for their power, their proclamation of righteousness, their status and their financial interests. Have they ever thought about what the purpose is to occupy acres and acres of land without livelihood of people? Have they ever thought about what the purpose of becoming the controllers of an area without peace, nothing but rubble, wreckage and blood? Even when they become the controllers, death and aging are not going to surrender to them. The excessive power and money won’t buy them any extra day. Instead of creating chaos and tragedy in the years of their livelihood, please act the way that they proclaim to keep world peace, generate prosperity and practice love which is being accommodating, acceptance and caring.

A little a time towards world peace.

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2016-11-03

If you aren’t big enough to stand criticism, you’re too small to be praised. – Earl Deason
Quoted by Tim Fargo

I am very self-conscious about different opinions. If I spend time drafting something, when someone points out things they want to change their way, I will become irritated, especially when these are only minor styles rather than something must be changed. I notice my attitude change, so I suggest to continue further conversation some other time.

After a few minutes of calming down, I couldn’t help but laughing at my stubbornness. What is the big deal of changing it. Why not do what they like. At least the other people are happy and I have nothing to lose.

I know why I become irritated when such thing happens. First, I think too much of my work. I hold the principle that if it is not critical, no need to waste time making the change. Second, unless you have a better idea, why should I listen to you. Third, I did the work so I know it better than you, who on earth are you jumping up critique me?

Considering Earl Deason’s words, I am not big enough to take criticism. On the one hand, I think too much of self. As per James Allen said in his work As A Men Thinketh, we separate ourselves from happiness and content when we only focus on self. Narcissists live in their own world, self admired but lonely. On the other hand, I put too much attention on other’s opinions and take them personally. The moment I hand over the controlling power, my world tilted. I need to regain my control. It is a power struggle.

Separate persons from things, separate feelings from realities. We need the right reactions to criticism and praise, so that we won’t feel hurt facing criticism and won’t feel inflated receiving praise.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

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2016-11-02

Quote: Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Mahatma Gandhi

Quoted by Tim Fargo

Would you feel happy if you survive a flood? Sure do, right? It is like given another chance from death. I read a story about a girl who is not very good at swimming but survived a severe flood.

In her story, she said that the moment she was pulled into the torrent, her strongest thought was to survive. So she fought against the current hoping to keep her head above water. At the beginning, she was strong enough to use all four to keep struggling in the current. It was cold, threatening and helpless. So after a few minutes, when she consumed all her energy, she found it was harder and harder to keep herself floating. “I am going to die. I don’t want to but I have to.” After a brief prayer, she released her tension, gave up the fighting, spread all four and got ready to die. Miraculously, instead of falling down, she found herself floating on the water with the flow to downstream. When the torrent was less ferocious, she was able to grab the branch by the bank and pulled herself to safety.

You think I am telling you to give up fighting and wait for dying? I am not a wicked witch from Halloween. I would like you to rethink how to live, and furthermore, how to live happily.

There are multiple explanation to Gandhi’s quote. My take-on is that when what we think, what we say and what we do are in harmony, we are no longer in a fighting mode. Instead, we say what we think and we do what we say. There is no more pretention, no more justification. Every side of us is in alignment.

When we say “I love you.” to someone we dear, we are thinking the loving thoughts of what makes this person lovable, furthermore, we are doing things that demonstrate our love. Especially when things are not going so smooth, when we are in conflicts, if we let the love thoughts penetrate our physical and mental realm, we will find a space for ourselves to harmony, the inner peace, which allows us to keep thinking, saying and doing the love acts. Even when the person is no longer in love with us, we are still in control of our mental state. We did our part and be who we are, the rest is not in our control. The reality hurts, but the self-affirmation empowers us to restore the relationship or let go of it wisely and managably.

When we say “I will be there.”, we are extending our benevolence. We think we would like to help, we tell the people that we will help and we roll over our sleeves to lend a hand. It is not the time spent on help, nor the care to help that consumes us, it is the struggling about worthiness. However, when the thinking, saying and doing are in-line, we do not need to torment ourselves on whether it is worth helping, because the worthiness is out of the question when it is our decision to help in the first place. We are not the victims of betrayal, instead, we are the willingly helper.

Keeping what we think, what we say and what we do in harmony is building up our character and practicing integrity. It says that “Honesty is telling others; while integrity is telling ourselves.”. Our character is our brand. We are responsible to build it up and keep it. Walking our talk eliminates the internal struggles and questionings. The less noise, the more peaceful; the more peaceful, the happier we experience.

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

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2016-11-01

The more things are forbidden, the more popular they become. – Mark Twain
Quoted by Chuck Canady

I remember a commercial I watched on TV a few years ago. On a snowy, icy cold day, a tank truck filled with beer parked outside a convenient store beside the gas station. There was this enticing picture of a sparkling beer glass fill with bubbling bear, covered with water drops from the cold cold bear inside. A man was so attracted to the picture and approaching the truck, so the truck driver reminded him, yelling, “Don’t touch the truck! Don’t touch the truck!”, several times. Despite the repeated reminder, the man couldn’t help but licking on the surface of the tank. Guess what? You know it. His tongue got stuck on the metal surface. The more we say don’t, the more likely people will do. How amusing!

Forbidden, sometimes refers to reminders to take precautions, such as “Don’t touch the truck.”; sometimes refers to status of exclusivity, such as the “Forbidden City” in China, which used to be the exclusive residence of the aristocracy; sometimes refers to taboos, which is how euphemism is created. In a word, the purpose of forbidden is to keep away.

It is funny that people are willing to do anything to keep certain information away from being known, creating the forbidden area. Lucky enough they can survive the undisclosure. However, what if the forbidden was broken and the information leaks? It can be quite embarrassed, and even devastating.

The 2016 US Presidential election is such an amazingly crafted and directed drama if there has ever been a play writer and a director. Nobody knows what the next development of the plot is. Things got disclosed with unbelievable speed and timing. Neither of the candidates needs to spend time writing their autobiographies. Their history, their experience and their hidden stories have all been dug out of the forbidden area, becoming popular propaganda. Furthermore, people who got involved in the disclosure, the leak, the spreading, all become popular. If the candidates are able to manipulate the situation like this even before they have the power, what else will they do when they are in power? If half of everything they claimed on the rivalry is true, will the Americans trust their country with the jokers, or plotters or players? The forbidden can create history; it can also break power.

Risky but entertaining. Are we talking about a country’s most serious event?

Happy Attitude Nourish Harvest!

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